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My sister does not talk to me at all. She has made false police reports, trying to have me arrested, even having her ex husband that lives in Fla call 911, saying I was going to murder her, and he cant get in touch with her, and he is very concerned. She went to moms doctor. This is on my mom's MyChart that I had been missing for 9 years, and popped into the family's life wanting mom to change the will, and I wanted a POA. I have never wanted a POA, and a will didn't exist then. I have never been missing. Greenville County turned all the 911 calls and reports, which there are more to me. She has my mom believing I lie about everything. I tried talking to my mom about what she has done, even have documation to back it up, and my mom says that never happened. My sister has put her name on everything. My mom owns the house she has survivor benefits. My Dad passed away in 2014 with a will. My Dad was so close, but my sister made sure I was hurt then. Dad was a fair, honest man; he would not believe what was going on. I had a brother who passed away suddenly in 2018 age 61 heart attack, and when that happened, my sister took out a line of credit on my mom's house, completely redid it, and my mom is paying the loan back also all taxes and insurance out of social security. My Dad served in WW11 but he never drew a penny of benefits. He told me he wouldnt he was hard of hearing and was a gunner's mate in the Navy. But when he passed, my sister got VA benefits for my mom. My mom once told me she doesn't know how much she has or where the money is. The fiduciary department is no help neithers is APS. I have a bank statement showing where my sister and her daughter use moms debit card for themselves. I am waiting on knee replacement surgery, and at this time, my mobility is limited, but I need help with this. I cant afford an attoney what are my opions

You still haven’t said what you want to happen. You “want the right thing done” but you don’t say what that is. Do you want your sister to go to jail? Do you want her to abandon your mom? You can’t control your sister and it sounds like your mom is doing fine and this is about control of the finances. Why do you care if your mom is paying for the house upgrades? It will increase the value at sale if the money is needed for her to move into a nursing home.
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(1) Are you able to communicate with your mom and she with you? (2) Do you think your mom is being neglected or abused? (3) Had you been expecting an inheritance and now you think you won't get it?
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I also don't know what you want to happen? Your mom at 96 clearly cannot manage on her own, she doesn't understand her own finances, and she can't separate fact from fiction. She won't know what is a lie coming from your sister, but it also sounds like she is also generally confused. Bravo to your sister for getting her VA benefits! That was a good thing. Sister using her funds for personal expenses is not good, but if she is a signer on your mom's accounts as POA, there is probably little you can do about it. It might be hard to prove the expenses aren't for your mom or her needs. It might also depend on "self-dealing" laws in your state. In some states, there aren't strong protections against this. Are they all living in the same house? Maybe the house needed those repairs if your mom was going to continue living there.

I don't think you are going to be able to get any legal action against your sister, but I'm not sure that would be helpful if she is the one taking care of your mom and you aren't prepared to take over EVERYTHING.

When your mom passes away, the remaining assets should be divided according to the will or inheritance laws in your state. I would be prepared to find out that she left everything to your sister.
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Jill864 Jan 8, 2026
My sister doesn't talk to me she has made it to when my mom passes nothing goes to probate it goes to her then when something happens to her goes to her daughter. .you sister has tried having me arrested on false charges and as far as the house yes mom needed a walk in shower and a new laundry room but granite countertops new cabinets new vanity in all bathrooms there was a carport she .made it into a garage she said to make the house more saleable
My mom is 96 lives alone and still drives she is not your normal 96 yr old
My dad passed at 94 and looked 70 and was very active he had a stroke
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I think your only option at this point is to just cut ties with your very dysfunctional family and move on with your life, so you can focus on your surgery and recovery as this stress will do nothing to help that situation.
If your sister is up to no good with your moms money she will have to stand before her Maker one day and answer for that. And she may have to answer even before then if there is some type of fraud going on, as what goes around comes around.
If it makes you feel better I would just send your mom cards every now and again reminding her that you love her and just let the rest of this nonsense go. It's just not worth the stress that's it's adding to your life. And all things cannot be fixed especially when there's dysfunction at the root of it.
Move on girlfriend!
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Jill864 Jan 8, 2026
I agree I just hate this has happened
Before my dad passed I had a family
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You seem to have 2 different things going on. Obvious issues with your sister and that you need help with knee replacement surgery. Financial help? Do you not have Medicare or insurance? Are you expecting your mother/sister to pay for this surgery, I'm confused? If you contacted APS and they've not opened a case, they see no elder abuse going on. An attorney consultation is normally free.

Please elaborate on what you're trying to do.
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Jill864 Jan 8, 2026
No I have insurance my sister is abusing her power by brainwashing my mom. My sister spends my mom's money for her own gain. She has made it to where I can't call my mom by blocking my number. All I want is my mom taken care of and end the evil my sister is doing
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What is it specifically that you want help with? What is it that you want to happen?
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Jill864 Jan 8, 2026
I want the right thing done
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