My mother is hard of hearing and seems to misinterpret everything I say. When I speak louder she thinks I am angry at her. Any suggestions?

Midkid58, my dad had a severe hearing loss from his time on the flight line in WWII. He got expensive hearing aids ($4k) and wouldn't wear them when he and my mom were in their apartment. ARGGGGGH! When I went over, I'd refuse to talk to him until he put in his hearing aids. So he'd put in one, LOL. At least then he could *somewhat* hear me then. My mom also had hearing aids but never wore them at all. So just know that even if your DH gets hearing aids, he may still fight you on wearing them.

I just forgot to mention the fact that my husband has the opposite problem, everybody and everything are too noisy and make him, now in his 12th year of diagnosed Alzheimer, crazy, We have found the way to watch TV together: he keeps the volume almost to zero and I use my headset on high and we get along just fine. I want to point out that the headset helps a lot my brain to unscramble the words I hear and with the close captions and my reading lips and body movements I can follow with no problem even a conference. What I had to give up was the music, especially classic music, when I realized that I could not even recognize pieces I used to love and sometimes even play.

Hope the idea of a headset may help somehow.
Bless you all.

Update:
Mom''s hearing aid accidently went through with a load of laundry.
Destroyed.
Sigh......
I guess she wins this battle.....for now.

My mom's hearing aid went through the laundry. I thought it was completely dead, but the doctor said to put the hearing aid in a sealed baggie full of dry rice, and leave it overnight, or a whole 24-hour period. Cover it over with the rice. It pulls the moisture out of the hearing aid. The next day, her hearing aid was working again. We may have just got lucky, but its worth a try before getting rid of it.......

My mom would not use her hearing aids. I read a comment from a nurse who used this with her elderly patients about Phone Talker. It was wonderful she heard everything. You don't even have to put in ear if you don't want to. No noise like she said she was getting from hearing aids. I highly recommend. I went online to WalMart. They cost $50.00. Her hearing aids were $3000.00.

@ liverlips486
I wish drying the hearing aid out was the only problem. It smashed into several pieces.
Must do a better job checking pockets.....

Thank you all for sharing your experiences and suggestions. I will try to change my approach. I feel especially happy that there are so many kind people on this site who are knowledgeable in this area and willingly share what they have been through. You are all a great resource to me. Thank you!