In the past 5 years, I have watched my mother's health decline.
Originally, Mom lived with me. After several months, my husband gave me a choice of him or her. So I moved my Mom into AL. AL threw her out after 6 months, saying that she needed more care.
I bought her a home and provided care providers for her. Mom's health continued to decline and care providers continued to quit because of her behavior. Mom can be very mean and obnoxious because of her demanding nature. My last provider of only 3 months, informed me that my Mom was going downhill - since the day she was hired. She said every morning when she arrived, she did not know what she was walking into.
One night, Mom pressed her on-call button and was taken to the hospital. Mom was diagnosed with Dementia and Sundowner's. The hospital released Mom into 24/7 care. The senior community informed me after 6 months that she had to leave since they could not provide constant care. The community wanted me to hire a 24/7 companion to stay with her at the senior community.
We moved her into a nursing home. She has been there 3 weeks. She is demanding that she be moved. Mom cannot stand it. She says that all the men are trying to rape her. I believe she is stuck in a past memory from WWII when she may have been raped by a Russian soldier.
I am at my wit's end. She is constantly begging and demanding us to take her out to a different place. Mom demands that we believe her about the situation with all the men at the nursing home. Mom said the same thing about the men at the previous community also.
Mom also says that they are poisoning her. My sister and I are at a loss for what to do.