My mother has signed the deed to her house over to my sister. Any advice?

Dementia doesn’t mean mentally incompetent. Only a court can decide that. In some countries, it’s enough for a doctor to say: mentally incompetent (but this can be appealed).

She could have mild dementia and still be legally allowed to sign. Even though she later forgot, it can be allowed. As long as the person is able to retain information long enough, understand the consequences, etc., they can be allowed to sign. It all depends on the extent of dementia.

Perhaps your sister is making sure that your mother’s house is exempted should your mother have to apply for admission into a Medicaid nursing facility because of her dementia.

Time to see an elder law attorney. Sorry, but when you get in these legal issues there is no substitute for professional advice.
A Forum of regular folk like us is well and good for the minor questions, but for medical, legal advice you cannot afford to go wrong, which means you MUST pay for good advice.
I wish you the best.

This is a shame. A real shame because with my siblings, we give full disclosure. I'd find out everything from an Estate Attorney. They can find out who has POA medically and financially. If she does in fact have those things, there's little you can do unless you get your mother to redo and update her current paperwork.

My In-Laws did a reverse mortgage and put my husbands sister on the deed. We don't care about the house but it is in SF and they bought it in the 50’s for $20,000.

his parents are now deceased and she is in her late 70’s. We would love for her girls to inherit the house but there is no will and taxes, fees etc will have to be payed.

that is one problem your sister may have, the stepped up basis of the home when adding her to the deed.

the other issue you need to deal with is your Mothers level of dementia when all of this was done. As so many others recommended, an estate or elder care lawyer is a great idea

i just noticed OP is gone. if you look on the profile, there is the "kitty" picture.

did your sister help your mom with everything, while you did nothing? did your sister, while she helped your mom, become poorer and poorer while you went on with your life and became richer and richer? were all problems, stress, emergencies dumped on your sister?

or did you both help your mom equally? or perhaps even, you're the one who's been helping, and your sister did nothing?

some people only become "concerned" about their elderly parent, when money/assets/house issues suddenly appear.

keep in mind, there are different levels of dementia (even if diagnosed by a doctor). if mild, then the person is still mentally competent and allowed to sign the deed over to whomever they like. only a court can declare someone to be mentally incompetent.

Sister could be taking advantage of your mother. Contact an elder lawyer. Need to protect your mom, Medicaid issues maybe affected if she’s stealing money & not using it on mom.

Does your mother have a will? Is the house mentioned in it?

If your mother is diagnosed to have dementia, I would believe that her signing any documents is invalid. Contact an attorney or the bank who has the deed to the house, or both.

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Depending on your county, their GIS system may have links to everything you need. Documents would be recorded with the county clerk and reporter's office. You can look online or go into their office to ask for help.

Did/Do you have Financial POA and Medical POA? Do you know for a fact that your sister has the deed to the house? (Check the county appraiser's website to see who and when the ownership changed.)

Is your Mom's dementia so bad that she could be deemed mentally incapable of handling her own affairs?

About the bank statements, did you ask your Mom about them? Could your sister have put them on paperless setting? You could take your Mom to the bank so that she can ask them the questions or she can authorize you to know the answers to the questions, both temporarily as well as for the future.

Same for doctors and social security inquiries.

I would find out as much as you can about the state and ownership of her finances before you retain an attorney. If your Mom is mentally incapable to function, and you were acting as the POA, that is a completely different scenario, than one where your Mom is capable of making decisions and made your sister joint owner with right of survivorship or put the house under a trust.

Your Mom could have added your sister's name to all of her finances, if your Mom feared that all of her finances would be inaccessible at the time of death.

It is good to know how everything that your Mom has is titled.

Then retain the attorney, if the situation warrants it.

Well, a couple of negative things for your sister, aside from the frustration and moral unfairness factor to you:
1. If your mom signed over the house to her while still living, your sister's basis (for tax purposes) will be what your mom paid for the house, whereas if she would have just left the house to her after passing, your sister's tax basis would be the value of the house at the present time. So big taxes could be in store for your sister.
2. The other thing, as others have mentioned, is the 5 year Medicaid look back.

With both of those things in play, your sister might be in a for an unpleasant surprise.

I'm not an accountant, but I'm pretty sure that's the way it is in any state. Elder law attorney time!

frankpaz: Retain an elder law attorney.

Do you have other siblings? If yes, you should act together. Call any law office and ask them. You don’t need to use them

"Can Medicaid come after the house retroactively once they both pass away?"

Yes, Medicaid does take the house and other assets meaning the children can forfeit their inheritance to them and other debtors.

Here is a link that explains this better.

https://www.elderlawanswers.com/protecting-your-house-from-medicaid-estate-recovery-12155

My mom added my name to the deed of the family home. It stipulated she would have "Life Use" of the property, and I would be the "silent" owner. The property tax bills came with both our names, with the note "in care of" by mom's name, as in the eyes of our state, she was still the owner of the property. I helped out with minor repairs and up-keep of the property.

Years later, when I took on the role of her cargiver, the situation developed where Medicaid was the best solution to assist me in keeping her in the family home. There was no issue regarding the property, as it was way past the five year look-back period.

Each year, I would go over important documents with mom: POA, Health Care Proxy, Will, Funeral Arrangements, Obituary, and Deed, to make sure she was OK with everything. I would then prepare a sheet that both of us signed and dated noting our review. I wanted it for my record in case anyone (including siblings who were never involved in her care) every questioned my decisions. Regarding the Deed, I always stressed to her she was the owner of the home until her death.

When she died at age 93, I was prepared. Her funeral wishes were followed. When it came to closing the estate, it was a very simple process that involved my attorney filing a death certificate with the County Clerk to confirm ownership of the property transferred to me. My siblings never questioned anything.

Many of the horror stories that occur regarding control over property, bank accounts, etc. might, and I stress might, be avoided if wishes were discussed and reviewed on a regular basis. You note in your profile you are your mom's caregiver. How did your sister get access to the will, etc. I always kept such documents in a locked box. As others have already stated, your situation requires the advice of an attorney. I wish you well.

Does your mother already have a diagnosis of dementia? I’m thinking not. In the state of California, I was made aware when I was caregiving that a law was coming into affect that before important documents can be signed, like wills and trusts, that the owner has to have a clearance from a doctor that they do not have dementia. If they do then everything‘s OK. if they don’t, they are supposed to get one. if they do have a diagnosis of dementia, it automatically has to go through a conservatorship. Complicated situation.

We don’t know the full story. She may be the bad sister or she may be the good sister and you’re the bad sister who’s unhappy about it. We lean towards you being the good sister because you’re here and you’re asking. I pray your mother is protected and best interests are put first no matter what.

Get an elder care lawyer to represent your mom. I am sure he has ways of getting those documents and new ones in place if needed.

Hello frankpaz. I'm sorry there is tension between you and your sister. That is the last thing anyone needs when caring for a LO with dementia.

I am living in my parents' home and helping them age in place. My mom is four years into her dementia diagnosis. I have two older siblings, who live out of state. One sibling visits twice a year so I can take a break. The other sibling is not involved in my parents' care.

My parents and I visited their attorney of 25+ years who happens to specialize in ELDER CARE. My Pop and I have POA.

The attorney has given us direction re: next steps. Some things we're doing and some things my Pop does not want to do, at least at this time.

My Pop is determined to leave money behind for their three, fully functioning adult children (including me). I have made it clear to him and the attorney that I want them to use every last penny on their care. They worked hard for their money.

The attorney says my mom is in a swiftly closing window of time when she can still sign docs so we've been signing a lot. My siblings do not know that my oldest sibling is no longer the executor of their estate; I am.

I'd like to think we've all led lives that speak to our integrity. None of us has done anything to suggest we'd be anything but fair, if money should remain after my folks are gone.

If your sister's life proves her to be untrustworthy, then I would contact an elder care attorney. If she has appeared to be trustworthy to this point, and this is unusual, I suggest the three of you go to an elder care attorney together.

~ VV

elder care attorney call. did your mother already have a will and a power of attorney and health care directive? maybe your mother did it already and made your sister in charge without telling you. does she take charge of affairs and caretaking more? in case she needs a nursing home they meaning medicade looks back 5 years to try to recoup the estate.

Time to lawyer up. Why was all of this done in secrecy by your sister and then telling you don’t worry about it? I’m going through something very similar and it all sounds fishy to me.

Some siblings are very greedy & sneaky and think they’re entitled to everything.

If your mother has dementia she cannot legally make decisions for herself. So what your sister just pulled is illegal and can bring criminal charges on her like fraud and elder abuse.
Please make a police report and get yourself to a lawyer who specializes in elder law.
I've seen this sort of thing happen many times over the years with families I've worked for. One sibling decides to get cute and sneak their mom or dad with dementia down to a lawyer on the DL to change a will or switch a POA. My husband's friend is lawyer who specializes in estate planning. He also does elder law work. When an elderly client is brought in to change a will or a POA he requires that there be legal paperwork stating that the former POA (if the reason for the change is other than them being deceased) and heirs to a will are aware of the changes. Their permission is not necessary, only their awareness. This practice prevents a whole lot of family problems.
Please have a consultation with a lawyer.

Just because someone has been diagnosed with dementia does not mean they cannot sign legal documents. In fact, early stages of dementia many are still considered competent to make agreements. It is not a simple switch.

Did you check the clerk and recorders office to see what documents have been recorded? You might want to do that.

If your mother has been diagnosed with Dementia het signature should not be legal. If you are using the term Dementia only b/c of your own observations, it may be harder to prove her incompetence. If her doctor can document het incompetence, an attorney might help you invalidate papers she has recently signed. You need an attorney's help to sort this out.

Consult with an attorney. Every situation like this that I have heard of by friends close to me, has turned into a problem. Make sure your sister doesn’t get a reverse mortgage. they can be used legitimately, yet I’ve never seen it.

i’m making bold statements based on little fact (Will,Poa,etc). Find any attorney to consult with. Some may give you a free consult. Elder abuse cases can be lengthy.

Family law atty

One word….Lawyer. Dementia patients can not do legal paperwork. In some states not even a divorce. Go to court. My mom was po’d at my brother and asked me to get a new will to cut him out. I refused. I am her POA. She forgot! Sister may be considered “abusing” her authority.

ANYTHING signed by an individual with dimentia or any other mental incapacity is completely invalid. This is a no brainer. No pun intended .

Ok my post should have read “APS called in to look at if Sissy took advantage of a VULNERABLE adult; not a “very” adult. LOL.

on the notary, notary alone really not good enough. Notary really just has to look to see if the person signing is the same name as on the documents. And even then that has issues, eg. JR has same name as Sr and the document doesn’t specify which. I’ve always been told if it’s important, ya gotta have it witnessed by two and they cannot be family or in anyway related or were once related ( no ex husbands) or could ever themselves benefit.

if Sissy is POA for your mom she should never ever do things that directly benefit herself. POA is a legally recognized entity and responsibility, not to be taken casually. So house signed over to her (sissy) name would be total breach of her fiduciary duty as POA, but if she got mom to sign it over to her daughter not the same type of breach of fiduciary duty imho. Still will be an eventual clusterF should mom run out of $ and needs it to pay for care or mom files for Medicaid, but it’s probably more Sissy is clueless & greedy POA imo.
Again OP don’t let your Sisters ill thought out actions become your problems and your costs.