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I was with her Thursday, and she was the most verbal and clear headed she’d been in weeks. Said my name, thanked me for bringing a stuffed animal, told me to “come sit” when I walked in. This was also still mixed in with a lot of noises and gibberish. Her comfort meds weren’t holding her calm. She’d spit out part of a dose. I spent a couple of hours at the nursing home on Thursday just keeping her in bed till the next round of meds were due.
Hospice saw her mid day Friday and she was calm. Ate 40% of her lunch the nurse fed her. Things seemed stable. I was bracing for weeks or months of this, handling Medicaid spend down, etc.
The facility called me at 330 am and said she had “transitioned.” I said… she passed? And they said yes.Husband and I are here waiting on hospice. Nurse said she’d been sleeping all shift with no meds on board.Im a bit surprised it happened today, but really just feel relief. She and I can both be at peace now.

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It is good that her suffering has come to an end. I can definitely understand that you feel relief. I’m glad you were able to have a relatively good visit with her on Thursday, her saying your name and thanking you. Those will be positive memories. Thanks for updating us. I wish you peace.
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Thank God that you can now get off this crazy rollercoaster that you've been on.
I hope and pray that you will now take time for yourself to heal and grieve.
And yes one can feel relief along with sadness at a loved ones passing, as I'm sure you're now feeling, as that is quite normal when the rollercoaster ride has been a rough one.
But you're going to be ok. I wish you peace in the days, weeks and months ahead.
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(((OEdgar)))
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Oedgar, I'm so sorry for your loss. I felt the same sense of relief when MY mom died, and she "just" had vascular dementia, with no behaviors.

I hope that you will stick here with us and share your wisdom.

(((Hugs)))
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Oedgar, I am so sorry for your loss. I know this has been terribly difficult for you and your mom.

May The Lord give you strength, peace and comfort for this new season in life.

You were a tremendous blessing to your mom, may God Bless you exceeding abundantly for all you did.
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I'm sorry for your loss and all the distress that lead up to this point -- but am relieved for everyone, especially your Mom. May you receive peace in your heart as you move through the grief.
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I am very sorry for your loss. You had your share of challenges, and I hope you get some peace.
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My condolences for your loss. I hope you can get some rest now and show yourself some kindness. Please take care of yourself and I hope you continue to stay on this forum.
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Thank you for sharing your journey. I wish you peace.
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Oedgar, please accept my deepest condolences for the loss of your mother. I am so glad you had those last moments with her — so glad she was able to thank you on some level in her way, even inviting you to be with her as of course you have been with great dedication and love for so many years. I am very thankful she is at last freed from all her illnesses and is at peace.

Though the most pressing issues you were grappling with are now resolved, of course this is a tender time in the midst of the relief … Thinking of you.
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So sorry for the loss of your mother. Yes both you and she can be at peace now. You were a good daughter to her. Take care of yourself.
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I'm sorry you lost your Mother Oedgar,
I wish you peace in the days ahead~
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My condolences for your loss, Oedgar. Thank you for allowing us in on your journey. Praying for your peace.
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Sorry to hear this, yes, now you can go on with your life.
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Oh, I am sorry for your loss and at the same time so relieved for her and for you, O. This is the relief I too felt at the passing of my mom, my Dad and my brother. You no longer need to stand witness to all the loss, pain and fear, all the confusion and suffering. She no longer has to endure it; she's at peace. I am glad for you, and I am glad for her. I am 83 and as my time nears I hope also my own loved ones can only feel relief.
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Now you can breathe. I'm sorry for your loss, but relieved your dear mom is finally at perfect peace. Blessings to you for being such an amazing daughter.
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.so sorry for ur loss
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How beautiful that you were able to share a nice last day together when she was more present than usual. Please accept my condolences on the loss of your mother.
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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So sorry about the loss of your mother. Glad to know you had moments of clarity and presence with her. Blessings to you and sending you strength.
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Oedgar,

So sorry for your loss. Take good care of yourself and DH. Wishing you both peace,
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Sincere condolences to you, I’m sorry for your loss.
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Peace and blessings to you, such a long, hard road with mom. I’m glad she’s free of earthly pain and the losses of dementia. Wishing you much healing and memories of happier days
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It does sound like she had some awareness the end was near and I’m glad she had a few kind words for you after all the chaos. She was lucky to have you and I bet some small part of her was trying to acknowledge that. I wish you peace.
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You did a great job under horrifying conditions and now you can recover and heal.
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Take care of yourself now. Her journey here is over but yours continues. I know the feeling of relief and don't feel guilty about the what could I have done better? You did enough and you survived. It all comes down to that you survived a terrible experience that many here have and wish they never had to go through. Blessings
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Mom is at peace . I hope you find peace as well . You did a great job .
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My heart goes out to you. I hope you are blessed with peace and good health.
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