I was with her Thursday, and she was the most verbal and clear headed she’d been in weeks. Said my name, thanked me for bringing a stuffed animal, told me to “come sit” when I walked in. This was also still mixed in with a lot of noises and gibberish. Her comfort meds weren’t holding her calm. She’d spit out part of a dose. I spent a couple of hours at the nursing home on Thursday just keeping her in bed till the next round of meds were due.
Hospice saw her mid day Friday and she was calm. Ate 40% of her lunch the nurse fed her. Things seemed stable. I was bracing for weeks or months of this, handling Medicaid spend down, etc.
The facility called me at 330 am and said she had “transitioned.” I said… she passed? And they said yes.Husband and I are here waiting on hospice. Nurse said she’d been sleeping all shift with no meds on board.Im a bit surprised it happened today, but really just feel relief. She and I can both be at peace now.
I hope and pray that you will now take time for yourself to heal and grieve.
And yes one can feel relief along with sadness at a loved ones passing, as I'm sure you're now feeling, as that is quite normal when the rollercoaster ride has been a rough one.
But you're going to be ok. I wish you peace in the days, weeks and months ahead.
I hope that you will stick here with us and share your wisdom.
(((Hugs)))
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