My Mother (76) drinks a bottle of wine every day. Now she is not eating?

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My Dad buys her the wine. She won't go to the Doctor. Help. I live out of state as well as my brother. I am visiting right now and have asked her if she wants to die and she just doesn't say much. I have told her I love her and I hate seeing her like this. Just don't know what I can do. I have asked my Dad to stop buying the wine and I think he gets so much of the brunt end that he doesn't want to hear what she has to say when she is not on the wine. She is about 90 lbs and eats absolutely nothing, only wine. Don't know how much longer she can live like this?

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I agree that cold turkey could be a problem.. but I think weaning her down slowly may be doable? That fre wine is pretty tasty.. good call on the "areation" fiblet!
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Wine has an alcohol content from 5-15% as opposed to liquor at 30, 40 % or higher. Perhaps you can find a brand that is lower, this way she would not go into DTs while you convince her to get help.
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Pedantic as always, I want to point out that a "glass" of wine is defined as 5 oz. So that's 5 glasses per bottle.

How old are they? I have some sympathy for Dad. If he's the only caregiver, he must be so worn down. I feel guilty about how much TV my husband watches, but I would go mad if not for that distraction.
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Parker, you have received much good advice. Please take sometime and absorb what people are saying. There is no doubt mom is alcoholic and at the rate of drink she consumes it would be very dangerous to make her go cold turkey. And i do mean very dangerous so please no switching or watering down. She is at high risk for pancerititus so if she complains of any pain in her stomach or abdomen get her to the ER stat. At this point if you could get her to ER with dads help, they can detox her properly and then she would have to go into treatment or AA to stay dry. Because she is not eating and I imagine not drinking much water she is most likely dehydrayed, so you need to try and get her help. But that being said if she refuses and dad refuses there is not much you can do except learn how to handle it by going to Al anon, they will help you out alot. Please keep us posted and know we are here for you. Big hug your way!
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Is this Mom's only impairment? Does she have COPD, cancer, mobility issues, vision problems, hearing loss, dementia ... any thing else? Did she drink so heavily while you were growing up?

More information might trigger more suggestions.

For Dad to stop the wine supply abruptly sounds dangerous.

An intervention with professional help sounds possible.

Joining Al-Anon might be useful.

Do what you can. You are not totally powerless and you may be able to influence the situation. But ultimately you are not in control. Do you best. Do not take on guilt over this.
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Go to Reform U website for addiction.
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Hmm, a bottle of wine, 750 ml = 25 fluid oz, a glass of wine = 8 oz, so 4 "drinks" per bottle, right? But female, elderly, 90 #, with no food in tummy does change the equation. Can you talk her into putting a 1/2 way mark on the bottle and get it down to 2 drinks for starters? Maybe she'd be hungry then. Probably getting the calories from that. I'd have to wonder if she she is self medicating pain? Illness? When did it start?
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The elderly woman described in the question would go into DTs if she stopped completely and abruptly. Those can be fatal too.
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I bought the wine she drank and also a bottle of alcohol free (Frei was the brand) and swapped the wines so she poured the alcohol -free wine as if she was pouring her favorite. She did question it - asked why I uncorked it. I showed her an article about Aerating the wine to make it better. She also told me that she thought it was different - I explained that grapes must vary from year to year... just answered in a way that made sense to her.
I forgot to tell my husband that I was doing it - so one night he came home from the office, saw the Frei sitting on our buffet and poured a glass for himself. He couldn't believe how good it tasted for being "alcohol-free" and poured a second glass BEFORE he left to meet me for a community board meeting that evening! Lordy, Lordy... be sure you let others know what you're up to:)
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One bottle of wine a day at 90lbs gets her to a very high blood level every day, to which she has become tolerant. Yes, this is a diagnosis of alcoholism. Yes, go to Al-anon somewhere somehow. Is this the first time you knew she is an alcoholic? There will be a whole lot of the serenity prayer in dealing with this. Maybe change is possible. Maybe not.
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