Nursing Home is different than Memory Care or Assisted Living. She may not need the Skilled Nursing care that a Nursing Home would provide. Ask the doctor about Memory Care or Assisted Living placement. If that does not work.. personally I would tell the doctor you will be looking for another doctor.
We had same issue lawyer advised us to seek another doctor. This is for my Aunt who has dementia but her doctor says she’s fine. no she’s not fine. When you can’t remember if you ate your sandwich something is wrong. When you make a wrong turn and drive way out of your way and have no idea where you are and end up in a hospital something is wrong so seek another doctor that deals with the elderly
Why do you feel she needs NH care? Why does the doctor feel that she’s ineligible or inappropriate for the placement?
Does she have professionally diagnosed physical/emotional/cognitive issues that suggest the need for such a placement?
If you hold her POA, are you willing/able to have more diagnostic work done to confirm what you consider the need for more intensive care than she’s presently receiving?
It’s very frustrating to be made to feel that you’re not being listened to.
I would find another doctor at once - but first interview them to determine which one you feel comfortable with. I don't like the sound of this doctor. You have to take steps to protect yourself.
Also at least in CA unless your going private pay the patients primary care physician has to be a Medicaid Medicare? Can never remember which is which anyway he needs to already be (one of those two care or caid) accepted dr.
I have not read every answer but from what I have read it sounds as though the people who wrote them are under the impression that you don't require a doctors opinion in order to go to a nursing home. I have had three member's of my family in nursing homes. All were recommended by their PP. Unless a doctor says you need to be in a nursing home I doubt you can be admitted. It is not a hotel. It is for people who are not physically capable of caring for themselves. It doesn't matter who is paying. Does her doctor believe that there is some one at home to take care of this person? If there isn't than I am at a loss as to why he is refusing to have her admitted. Maybe you need a new doctor. Good Luck
I noticed something else. Some of you are mixing up a NH. with a memory impaired unit. If they are physically fine but forget whether they have had lunch, they are NOT ready for a NH. NH are for people who are either just physically ill or both mentally and physically ill. My dad was fine as far as his memory was but he had end stage kidney disease. He could not walk. As I was dealing with a mother with Alzheimer's Their doctor put him in a NH. Later when mom became bedridden. he put her in a NH. My sister who had COPD and kept falling down was also put in a NH because she lived alone. These are reasons for NH. Not competency unless there is something else wrong with them.
My mom always ends up in Nursing Home. I had never even heard of memory care until I started reading on here. I wish I would have known about this. She just got out for second time the reason I would pick the nursing home, actually they we're both also short term physical rehabs too, so she would get stronger before she came home. But after a couple of weeks she'd start refusing physical therapy saying she couldn't use her legs. She always comes home weaker. Do you know if the memory care places have temporary physical therapy as well?
She may not need the Skilled Nursing care that a Nursing Home would provide.
Ask the doctor about Memory Care or Assisted Living placement.
If that does not work.. personally I would tell the doctor you will be looking for another doctor.
Why does the doctor feel that she’s ineligible or inappropriate for the placement?
Does she have professionally diagnosed physical/emotional/cognitive issues that suggest the need for such a placement?
If you hold her POA, are you willing/able to have more diagnostic work done to confirm what you consider the need for more intensive care than she’s presently receiving?
It’s very frustrating to be made to feel that you’re not being listened to.