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She's selling or giving away all of my mom's stuff, her vehicle, her belongings, her clothes. And she's convinced my mom to assign her bank account name, put her name on the bank account, put on social security which I have called to put a hold on for fraud she is guardian of my mother because she told my mother to make her guardian. My mother is afraid of her and I don't know what to do because she is guardian and my mom was deemed coherent by the adult protective services but she is not at all. My sister told them, answered every question for her. I do not understand. Noone will help me and I need help. She is in charge of my mom's doctor's appointments, she will not take her to any she has locked and hidden every document of my mom's, every health record. I don't know there's nothing around this house of my mom's accept the debit card in my sister's purse. I feel like I'm going mad. I am my mom's full caretaker but I have no rights to anything because she is guardian. Help me please

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Can you afford to consult a lawyer who deals specifically with elder care issues at least for a consultation? You might try several to try for a better rate. This reeks to me of elder care abuse. I believe depending on where you are there are sources to possibly help should you make this known. At the very least your mother is being denied medical treatment not to mention numerous other issues such as lack of clothing,likely needed medications etc. She could be left destitute with no place to reside. You could go to her bank and speak to an officer and state that in the interim of the appointment of your sister you have strong indications of fraud. Any legal advice you are able to contract could well be worth it. If she has not been seen recently by any medical providers despite Covid there is at least the fact that there has been no communication that is definitely needed for her conditions. Medical fraud is generally not taken likely. Are there any insurance companies involved? This may eventually sever relationships with your sister but from what you describe she sounds spineless which sadly is not an uncommon occurrence in many situations similar to yours.
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AlvaDeer Aug 2020
Neither Social Security (under their representative payee program) nor guardianship granted by a court is "easy" to do by fraud. I find a lot of problems with OPs post. It sounds as though APS have already signed off on this? It is hard to see what exactly is happening. I can only advise her to see a lawyer.
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You say you saw APS already? Did they basically sign off on your Sister having guardianship? She has also Representative Payee from Social Security? My experience with that is that SS is VERY careful about conferring that, and that there is both letters from MDs, etc. Yearly accountings must be made. The person must be proven incompetent. Guardianship is also difficult to get. It is generally given by the court. What was the outcome of your Fraud accusations through SS? Also, of course your mother's car should now be sold, and assets go toward her care or into her accounts, as she can no longer drive. Of course Sister would be on ALL of Mom's accounts and financial records now as she is acting for your Mother as her guardian. I wonder also if sister is now downsizing so that Mother can enter care?
If you no longer wish to be closely involved do give sister the date that you will no longer do caregiving for Mom, so that she can arrange same.
I am assuming, with your mention of APS that they have signed off that they do not feel they should open a fraud case?
You might consider seeing a law attorney with the evidence you have of abuse. That is likely last stop on this as all other things have been done. You may want to move away from the situation if you find no satisfaction under the law.
Wishing you good luck.
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Hestersue Sep 2020
They dix not ask for proof of anything,no documents,solely based on what my sister told her.She was deemed compitant,and thats what my sis wants,Why i dont know yet,can u tell me wby thats so important that she wont even take her to her appointments?
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It sounds like your sister has acquired guardianship, but you ae the primary caregiver.  Unless you are getting paid a fair amount, I would tell sis, unless you start sharing information with me, I am not giving any more unpaid labor
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Hestersue Sep 2020
I cannot leave my mom,she is not safe and cant take care of herslf,tho now deemed compitant,what my sister wants,and reason she wont take her to medical appntmnts,Why?
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