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I took a picture of everything I took to Moms AL and NH. One was her glasses. Hers had some filigree on them. I took a picture from the front and sides.
Those glasses are there somewhere. He may have wandered into some one elses room. If he shares a room the aide could have gotten glasses mixed up or roommate could have them. Find a way that they can be recognized. Adhesive tape wrapped around the side piece with his initials on it?
When I was working in a Memory Care ALF before the plague hit, missing glasses & hearing aids were always an issue. Walter would lose his own glasses and his son constantly blamed us. Bottom line was, Walter's son had to keep getting him new glasses (readers) if the CGs couldn't locate his old ones. Normally they could, but not always. The bed is a great place to have the CG look first and foremost for missing items.
We once had a situation where a resident was eating at the dinner table, took out one of her hearing aids for some reason; another resident grabbed it out of her hand and ATE it. Literally. Chewed it right up and swallowed it. Sigh. The resident's POA had to get her another set b/c the Memory Care is not responsible for these types of mishaps or 'missing items'. Unfortunately.
Sorry you are going thru this; I know how frustrating and expensive it can be!!
If your happy with care there, try to focus on that & not things MIA.
if she’s on Medicaid, she gets $ each month for a Personal Needs Allowance that you as her dpoa should use to replace items. If the MC is getting her SS$ directly each mo, they have set up a in-facility trust account that you go to the business office to withdraw $ from her PNA to buy her things. If she’s private pay, perhaps think of this as it’s just $ that goes towards a spend down should she in her future need to apply for LTC Medicaid.
I get your frustration, my mom was forever MIA on 1 shoe, but she ended up with a collection of glitzy hair barrettes and she was most def not the barrette type. Look to buy the replacements inexpensively in multiplies and just store them in ziplocks till the next time needed. I used bright neon nail polish on everything of hers hard surface that I could or colored laundry markered anything fabric with her initials calligraphied. It will help you spot her stuff easier.
My mother actually went into another residents apartment and took a nap in their bed. Imagine their surprise when they found her!
I am sorry that you are dealing with this and I don't mean to make light of it.
How horrible and hilarious!
i went out to CVS and bought 10 pair of cheep readers and placed them all over. One I’m his pocket. One in his wheelchair one in his walker one next to the lamp one next to the bed one next to the toilet etc. mostly it was getting him into a habit of keeping them on his shirt that worked the best. Needless to say we have tons of glasses and we never misplace them.
i would put cameras in his room. That way you can see just what is going on.
Try getting the glasses necklace (name escapes me) to put glasses around his neck--one for each pair if necessary. I know it's frustrating, but your LO may not be the one losing his glasses, but then, again, he may just be. Hard to deal with, I know.
You could help get them back to correct place by putting some kind of name tag on glasses. Not so sure about labeling hearing aids depending on the size. Might also get one of those things that attaches to glasses so if he takes them off they are still hanging on his neck.
The one thing that upsets me is that her wedding rings have gone missing. Mom gestures with her hand a lot and I noticed right away. I call them to check and verify, I knew that she had just been helped shower and changed clothes. Her rings have been a little looser, and could have been lost when changing. They responded right away and asked for pictures so they could look, but they haven't shown up any where. Of course, they still haven't approved essential caregiver, so I can't look myself. The only blessing is that she hasn't seemed to notice. That really surprises me, as she didnt want to give them to me while she was in the hospital earlier this year, and they took her for tests and I promised to hold them for her. As soon as she got back in the room, she wanted those rings back!
OMG.... I don’t know where to begin. My young adult daughter who is thank God living back home with me after I was financially forced to placed her in a skilled nursing facility.
98% of everything my child owned went missing or was destroyed beyond repair. This includes the wall mounted plasma tv I had installed in her room. She acquired a severe DAI & short term memory loss and was keep so over medicated and do much more issues that happened and the worst nightmare you could imagine while at these facilities. It’s sickening another human being does this to other human beings, especially defenseless ones who can’t protect themselves.
I wear reading glasses so I can see up close, and without them, I can be obsoletely sure what I’m reading or seeing and why they stay on my eyes or head literally almost 24/7.
I wouldn’t worry about these reading glasses going missing, they start with small items and build up to larger items. It has to be the staff as they are responsible for the care your dad’s receiving and who enters his room. That’s their friggin job. I could make a list for you and the money it took to replace everything that I absolutely couldn’t afford to replace but I did. And I did without. But what you need to worry about is what’s actually happening to your dad.
I wish I had more political pull, as I would somehow find the monies to have a camera installed in every person(s) room while in the care of others. I tried to install a camera in my daughters room and you would have thought I committed murder. I didn’t try to hide it, why should I? If the staff was doing their job, there shouldn’t be any issues. The facilities claim its for the residents dignity, but I would rather have my daughters dignity exposed, than knowing everything that happened to her, and have proof, but a lawyer won’t touch it, because they are afraid of loosing their license to practice law should they proceed with all the things that weren’t just happening to my child, but I can honestly say happening to over 85-90% of the other residents as well. Ask around to other loved ones we visiting your dad you come to see and visit with their loved one in this facility. You will find out immediately their loved one has been missing things, as well. The facility will or won’t call you to inform you of some of the issues, but it’s nothing but a smoke screen for them so you are invested in trying to find out what’s going on and not putting their staff in the list of possibilities that it’s them doing all of this and also taking your attention off of things actually happening directly to your dad that I can assure you isn’t pleasant, and done intentionally for God knows why these issues continue to happen but they do every day and no one not even ombudsman will help you. They pretend to, but don’t be fooled, they aren’t your loved ones advocate at all.