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I tried in home care, my husband didn't like that but it worked for several months until aid became unreliable. Then I started daycare. He refuses to get out of bed many mornings. This is when I schedule my Dr appts and just some relaxation time. Please help with ideas to get him moving. He's moderate stage Alzheimer's and very stubborn. I can't leave him at all anymore. I just called another agency to get help. They said our county is a "void" I dont get it. I'm trying got to find a hous in 55+ community in another county where I can an get more help. I'm drowning under responsibility

I don’t have suggestions but want to offer support and say that I hope you find relief soon. I don’t have help with my mom and I know it’s hard. My mom doesn’t have ALZ or dimentia. She has Parkinson’s.

People truly have no idea what it’s like to be a caregiver. It’s draining. Hard to schedule time for things we need for ourselves like our doctor appointments. It only makes it more difficult for you if you can’t get DH to get out of bed. So sorry you are going through this.
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My mother has become somewhat resistant to Day Care on some days. Since the morning routine is the same, I don't get push back until she sees the clothes I have laid out for the day; day care clothes are nicer than PT clothes or weekend clothes. About half the time when Mom sees the nice clothes she tells me "I don't need to go there today, I want to stay home." What follows is a discussion about why she doesn't want to go to day care, since she said she had a good time there when she came home after the last time. I almost never get a reason why she doesn't want to go (although she did tell me the lady leading the sewing activity didn't know how to sew :>), only a question asking how she will get home. Once she is dressed and we are in the living room waiting on the van to pick her up, she's OK while we talk and drink coffee.
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Try a routine where coffee and breakfast only happens when dressed and at the table. It might take two or three days to see some change, and you might even need to drop lunch. He isn't going to starve immediately! But don't wait on him in bed.
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Does DH need to get out of bed earlier on the day care mornings? Or do you follow the same routine every morning? How does he realize it's a day care morning?
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