He had a mini stroke in February due to uncontrolled diabetes and heavy smoking. He was barely able to walk, but has worked hard to get that back. Now that he is walking and gained functionality back he’s reverting to his old habits. Doesn’t wear CGM and is up to a pack of cigarettes a day, easily. There’s nothing I can say to change his behavior. He just gets furious. The idea of what the next stroke could bring has me so stressed and I feel so un-cared for. My strategy has been ignoring him and that is just causing both of us stress. How can I deal with this? Is there a way to think about this that isn’t personal ? Am I being selfish?