Explaining the why and how of this condom catheter is pointless. He does not have any short term memory at all. He does not object to me putting it on him and hooking the tube to the collection bag, but it’s meaningless to him. Not sure how he gets it off so easily because when we first started with this there was no problem except removing the condom in the morning. I had to buy a special adhesive remover and even with that it was a challenge. So here we are going through 3 condoms a night but still having wet sheets, waterproof pads, blanket and even pillows every morning. I’m at my wits end.
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Or, have him just use disposable briefs plus the anti-strip clothing. Whatever doesn't exhaust you!
My late husband was very incontinent and after trying all the bladder spasm medications and even having Botox put in his bladder he still was. So his urologist recommended that he get the supra pubic catheter, which was a Godsend as we were both finally able to sleep through the night and I only had to empty his catheter bag twice a day.
But until then make sure he still wears his Depends, and you have waterproof pads under him that are large enough to keep the sheets at least dry.
You obviously are taking on way more than you can handle. I read your other post as well and it's time to look for another memory care facility that will be able to handle him. There are several different medications that can be given for his aggression. Your husband is not the first person that these places have had to deal with that have aggression.
There are places out there that will take him, so don't stop looking. Have a social worker help you in your search if needed.
I wish you the best in finding the right facility for him.
Very sorry, and it's sad.
I responded here so someone will see your posting and reply to your request for help.
I don't have experience with a condom catheter yet, but here are the products I have found to help with incontinence especially at night....
Briefs: Tranquility Overnight are excellent. Tranquility also offers a booster pad to place inside it for extra absorption. I use the overnights even in the daytime with the booster pad when we leave the house. You can purchase samples.
https://tranquilityproducts.com/product/tranquility-premium-overnight-disposable-absorbent-underwear-dau/
https://tranquilityproducts.com/product/tranquility-topliner-booster-pad/
Bed Pad: The Fusion Bed Pad is excellent. I got my first ones from my sister when her husband died. She had gotten them from an online neighborhood site. I was not impressed but decided to try one. It is by far better than any disposable or quilted pad. The website has videos showing the comparison. There have been mornings I actually had to place my hand on it to see that it was wet.
https://www.mipinc.com/products/categories/underpads/patient-care-underpads/fusion%C2%AE-underpads.html?classid=75&searchString=pad
I buy all of that at Walgreens.
Also she sleeps on a washable bed pad (I have two so one is always clean and ready) which is on top of a disposable bed pad.
Rarely does anything leak out of all of that and if it does, the bed pad protects the sheets and mattress.
His illness may have declined to other level of care needs consideration. The night before wetting is surely one immediate challenge that the PCP needs to be aware of and provide support to you for, but there seems to be other needs increasing; perhaps you want to have him assessed by a hospice your choice for possible hospice appropriateness to admit either for home care or facility care.
The supplies ( diapers, bed pads, other equipment, supplies) are provided by hospice and the multiple interdisciplinary professionals visiting can help both him and YOU !
https://www.agingcare.com/questions/what-is-the-recourse-for-spouse-who-is-unpleasant-and-known-to-be-uncooperative-and-physically-aggre-481040.htm?orderby=oldest
I think anyway you should speak to a urologist. Other option is as others mentioned: changing adult diapers several times a night. Put two adult diapers on at the same time, one on top of the other, so more can be absorbed, soaked.
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