I'm looking for someone to take me to Las Vegas, Laughlin, etc. I need help going to the bathroom, showering, getting dressed, etc. I am a large woman so need someone strong. Is there anyone who can help me? Not ready to roll over and die just yet.
I suppose you will have to hire someone to help you. Are you planning on flying or driving? Do you live near vegas? Is it only Vegas you are interested in? Gambling or shows? Do you have that in your city? Most states have casinos. Is Vegas far from you?
We live in Chino. CA. My granddaughter is in a Cheerleading Competition at UNLV and I'd like to go watch. The Laughlin trip is to go see a show. Thanks for your input.
I hate to ask you this but I am curious to know if you have a gambling addiction? If you do you can join gamblers anonymous. I can’t imagine why gambling would be so important to you with your health issues.
Have you thought about your husband’s feelings about how difficult it is for him to travel with you? It can’t be easy for him and I certainly understand why he is reluctant to endure going to Vegas with you.
Would you really enjoy yourself? Aren’t there other things that you could participate in? Something that wouldn’t require any travel.
Not judging you. I just don’t want to see you harming yourself financially, physically or emotionally if you do have a gambling problem.
Admitting a problem is the first step to recovery. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed if that is the case.
Thank you for your concern. I don't have a gambling addiction, but I do like to gamble. My granddaughter is in a Cheerleading conpetition at UNLV and I'd like to go see her. The hotels that we stay at have handicapped rooms with roll in showers, bars in the bathrooms, etc. The Laughlin trip is to see a show that I'd really like to see. My husband has just come up with this no travel thing. He is very cheap and I guess he doesn't want to spend the money. He doesn't understand MS and has made no effort to find anything out about it. I'd divorce him but don't want to lose my house. Can't live alone but sure wish I could.
You can hire caregivers that will help you. You could do one of two things. If getting to Las Vegas or Laughlin is not a problem and you just need help once you are there you can contact an agency and arrange a caregiver once you are there. If you need help on your way there then hiring a caregiver from where you live and they will accompany you on your trip. This would be more expensive because you would have to pay for the caregivers transportation and other expenses like food. Another option might be to contact an Assisted Living facility and see if you can arrange to stay for a week, "try on the community" and they would have the help you need and I am sure you can get transportation to and from any casino or to shows, shopping and other sites. (If you are in an Assisted Living facility now many of them have properties in other locations you could ask if that is the case could you stay at another for a week) side comment...If you are not in an AL now it might be something to look into it does not sound like your husband is much help to you or is willing to help and you will probably need more help as time goes by. (unless he just does not want to help you when you are away from home)
Thank you for your suggestions. I never thought of them but will certainly check them out. My granddaughter is in a Cheerleading Competition at UNLV and that is why I want to go see her.
I love Grandma1954s suggestions!! I don't blame you for wanting to travel, despite being in a wheelchair. Plenty of people do it, so why not you? Too bad your husband is such a cheapskate that he doesn't want to give you some entertainment, ugh. Men. Can't live with 'em, can't shoot 'em.
I hope you get to see your granddaughter compete in her cheerleading at UNLV and get some casino time in as well. Why not?
Funny........but I was married to a gambling addict for 22 years, so we went to Las Vegas and other casino cities all the time. He ruined the experience for me by creating a lot of stress & getting himself kicked out of most casinos (for counting cards at blackjack), so I stopped going. But I love roulette!! So now I'm married to a man who finds gambling BORING, even if he's winning! So again, I don't go..........LOL.
Please forgive me if I offended you. Was not my intention. I have no moral objection to gambling. I don’t like to see a person suffering with any addiction and my questions were out of concern.
I am so sorry that you do not have a husband who does not like to travel. All I can say is to inquire about hiring someone to assist you.
I understand that you would like to see your granddaughter. My daughter was on the dance team and I loved watching her dance. Both of my girls did gymnastics and were on teams. It’s fun to watch their routines. They played volleyball too and I loved going to their games. My youngest daughter performed in plays too. I loved seeing all of her performances. My kids were always involved in something.
I’m sure you are very proud of your granddaughter. They enjoy having parents and grandparents watch them perform. Can someone videotape her performances that you aren’t able to attend? I know it isn’t the same but at least you get to see a recording of it.
You mention divorce. Have you ever had a consultation with an attorney? Do you live in a community property state? I hate to see you miserable in a marriage. Sorry that your husband is cheap!
People in wheelchairs can and do remain active. I wish you well.
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I guess a friend wouldn't go with you? No family members? If not, you will need to check out agencies but they aren't cheap. Do u have a Nursing school near you? Maybe a student would be willing to go.
Have you thought about your husband’s feelings about how difficult it is for him to travel with you? It can’t be easy for him and I certainly understand why he is reluctant to endure going to Vegas with you.
Would you really enjoy yourself? Aren’t there other things that you could participate in? Something that wouldn’t require any travel.
Not judging you. I just don’t want to see you harming yourself financially,
physically or emotionally if you do have a gambling problem.
Admitting a problem is the first step to recovery. Don’t be embarrassed or ashamed if that is the case.
You could do one of two things.
If getting to Las Vegas or Laughlin is not a problem and you just need help once you are there you can contact an agency and arrange a caregiver once you are there. If you need help on your way there then hiring a caregiver from where you live and they will accompany you on your trip. This would be more expensive because you would have to pay for the caregivers transportation and other expenses like food.
Another option might be to contact an Assisted Living facility and see if you can arrange to stay for a week, "try on the community" and they would have the help you need and I am sure you can get transportation to and from any casino or to shows, shopping and other sites. (If you are in an Assisted Living facility now many of them have properties in other locations you could ask if that is the case could you stay at another for a week)
side comment...If you are not in an AL now it might be something to look into it does not sound like your husband is much help to you or is willing to help and you will probably need more help as time goes by. (unless he just does not want to help you when you are away from home)
I hope you get to see your granddaughter compete in her cheerleading at UNLV and get some casino time in as well. Why not?
Funny........but I was married to a gambling addict for 22 years, so we went to Las Vegas and other casino cities all the time. He ruined the experience for me by creating a lot of stress & getting himself kicked out of most casinos (for counting cards at blackjack), so I stopped going. But I love roulette!! So now I'm married to a man who finds gambling BORING, even if he's winning! So again, I don't go..........LOL.
All the best!
I am so sorry that you do not have a husband who does not like to travel. All I can say is to inquire about hiring someone to assist you.
I understand that you would like to see your granddaughter. My daughter was on the dance team and I loved watching her dance. Both of my girls did gymnastics and were on teams. It’s fun to watch their routines. They played volleyball too and I loved going to their games. My youngest daughter performed in plays too. I loved seeing all of her performances. My kids were always involved in something.
I’m sure you are very proud of your granddaughter. They enjoy having parents and grandparents watch them perform. Can someone videotape her performances that you aren’t able to attend? I know it isn’t the same but at least you get to see a recording of it.
You mention divorce. Have you ever had a consultation with an attorney? Do you live in a community property state? I hate to see you miserable in a marriage. Sorry that your husband is cheap!
People in wheelchairs can and do remain active. I wish you well.
I guess a friend wouldn't go with you? No family members? If not, you will need to check out agencies but they aren't cheap. Do u have a Nursing school near you? Maybe a student would be willing to go.