He is very depressed and wanting to come home. How long wil they keep him in Rehab? He really is depressed and wants to come home. Please answer me soon.
This is something that you should bring to the attention of his doctor.
Have you had any cognitive testing done for yourself? Asking the same question four times and never responding to anyone's post makes me worried for you. Do you have someone to help you?
Is he cooperating with rehab? What does his surgeon say? There should be goals that he needs to reach in order to go home? He needs to heal and have the proper skills? Can you find and afford aides to help him at home?
Shirley you have asked this question numerous times, though this time it is hubby that is depressed. You need to figure out a way that you can be supportive of him and encouraging. That is how he will get to the point of being able to come home sooner. This is not about you, it is about his health and safety and wellbeing.
Shirley, You need to find out what he needs to do to reach his rehab goals for release to go home. On this forum we cannot answer that question. You need to support him healing. Your depression should not be dumped on him.
1. Do NOT publicly post the name of the facility, for a variety of reasons, including some that are legal, especially if you criticize the facility. If your criticisms are offensive, and if facility admins and staff become aware that you’re criticizing them publicly on a forum, they could decide to discharge your husband and force you to find another rehab facility.
2. Rehab assessments are based on referrals from a hospital, examination on entry, input from therapists and med pros, and other issues. Care conferences are held, typically at the beginning of the stay and 3+/- weeks later. If you have questions in the interim, ask to speak with the DON (Director of Nursing), or the visiting or resident physician.
3. These are the people who can offer suggestions on how long he'll be in rehab, and what criteria need to be met before he can be released. This is the best way to learn of the care plan for your husband.
4. There is absolutely no way we strangers posting on a forum can tell you when your husband can be released.
5. It's not surprising he's depressed. Ask to speak with the Activities Director at the facility, and find out if there are musical activities performed for the residents, and if animal therapy is provided. Work to alleviate his depression. Ask family and friends to send him cards (that always cheered my father, but music and pets were the most effective).
I e-mailed friends and family every time my mother, father or sister went to rehab, and they came to visit him, sent cards, called, and made major contributions to alleviating any depression that might otherwise have developed. A cousin brought a large bulletin board with push pins for cards. We placed it in a prominent place and visitors looked through the cards, commented and contributing to the verbal interaction which helped alleviate depression. Members of his church also prayed with him.
If you’re Jewish, can you get a rabbi or someone from the temple to visit him?
6. If your husband came home now, or earlier than the planned release, how would you care for him since he apparently is unable to put weight on his foot? Can you afford to hire physical and occupational therapists, and a nurse as well as perhaps a social worker once their recommended period of home care is exhausted?
7. First time rehab experiences can be frightening, confusing, and unsettling. I would consider asking to speak with a social worker, or even the DON if she’s available, to ask about their procedures for evaluation, and how YOU can help your husband with his depression. Also ask people in your congregation to visit him – put out the word.
8. How often are you visiting him, and when you do, do you ask staff to help him into a wheelchair so you can take him around the facility, or perhaps outside? You too can make a good contribution to his healing. Learning how to work with rehab staff can be a positive experience.
I always tried to get to know the staff, especially the aides, so that they felt appreciated and gave my father good service and attention. During one visit, one of the aides spoke with a Russian accent, so I greeted her and said good-bye in Russian. She was soo excited just to hear her native language spoken by an American! And she gave my father extra attention.
It takes awhile to acclimate to the environment of rehab; consider it a learning experience for both of you, and try to maximize what you can do to help him.
I wish your husband rapid healing, and success to both of you in facing this apparently new challenge.
JoAnn, hands up - it's me. I requested the Admins delete the reference to the specific home. While the OP's comments aren't heavily damaging, they are somewhat negative. People should NEVER specifically identify where they or their loved ones, are, especially when the accompanying comments are negative.
In addition, there's so much online snooping that we never know who's prowling around, gathering information that could be used negatively. With her and her husband's name, the city of residence, someone with nefarious intents could do some inappropriate snooping, and/or make unexpected illegal visits to the home when Shirley's away visiting her husband.
That's one of the reasons I didn't have an obituary published with a funeral date when my father died. Anyone reading it would know that his home is vacant, and mine would be for that day. I've been robbed once; that's more than enough.
I stand by my request to delete the specific name of the rehab center.
The facility has in house resources that you can tap into. If there is a social worker there, that person could talk to you and offer you assistance, all you have to do is ask. Do it!
Shirley1946...I and others have responded to your question in the other posts but I have to ask this... How are you doing? I know it is difficult to have a life partner away for what seems to be forever. When my Husband was in rehab I was lucky enough to be able to visit him every day and help him. AND I had friends that kept in touch with me and I kept busy. Are you able to visit him and are your friends keeping in touch with you to see how you are doing? If not you might want to give a friend a call. Being a caregiver is difficult and you often don't have time for friends so they stop calling. It might be time for you to make a call and maybe invite someone for coffee.
My Husband had the foot surgery in September 2 times. Heis in rehab for antibiotics and cannot put pressure on his foot. He is doing physical therapy. He says he does not feel good. He is very depressed. Yesterday He did not shave stopped reading the newspaper also does not turn on the tv. He wants to come home. What should I do?
Have you had any cognitive testing done for yourself? Asking the same question four times and never responding to anyone's post makes me worried for you. Do you have someone to help you?
1. Do NOT publicly post the name of the facility, for a variety of reasons, including some that are legal, especially if you criticize the facility. If your criticisms are offensive, and if facility admins and staff become aware that you’re criticizing them publicly on a forum, they could decide to discharge your husband and force you to find another rehab facility.
2. Rehab assessments are based on referrals from a hospital, examination on entry, input from therapists and med pros, and other issues. Care conferences are held, typically at the beginning of the stay and 3+/- weeks later. If you have questions in the interim, ask to speak with the DON (Director of Nursing), or the visiting or resident physician.
3. These are the people who can offer suggestions on how long he'll be in rehab, and what criteria need to be met before he can be released. This is the best way to learn of the care plan for your husband.
4. There is absolutely no way we strangers posting on a forum can tell you when your husband can be released.
5. It's not surprising he's depressed. Ask to speak with the Activities Director at the facility, and find out if there are musical activities performed for the residents, and if animal therapy is provided. Work to alleviate his depression. Ask family and friends to send him cards (that always cheered my father, but music and pets were the most effective).
I e-mailed friends and family every time my mother, father or sister went to rehab, and they came to visit him, sent cards, called, and made major contributions to alleviating any depression that might otherwise have developed. A cousin brought a large bulletin board with push pins for cards. We placed it in a prominent place and visitors looked through the cards, commented and contributing to the verbal interaction which helped alleviate depression. Members of his church also prayed with him.
If you’re Jewish, can you get a rabbi or someone from the temple to visit him?
6. If your husband came home now, or earlier than the planned release, how would you care for him since he apparently is unable to put weight on his foot? Can you afford to hire physical and occupational therapists, and a nurse as well as perhaps a social worker once their recommended period of home care is exhausted?
7. First time rehab experiences can be frightening, confusing, and unsettling. I would consider asking to speak with a social worker, or even the DON if she’s available, to ask about their procedures for evaluation, and how YOU can help your husband with his depression. Also ask people in your congregation to visit him – put out the word.
8. How often are you visiting him, and when you do, do you ask staff to help him into a wheelchair so you can take him around the facility, or perhaps outside? You too can make a good contribution to his healing. Learning how to work with rehab staff can be a positive experience.
I always tried to get to know the staff, especially the aides, so that they felt appreciated and gave my father good service and attention. During one visit, one of the aides spoke with a Russian accent, so I greeted her and said good-bye in Russian. She was soo excited just to hear her native language spoken by an American! And she gave my father extra attention.
It takes awhile to acclimate to the environment of rehab; consider it a learning experience for both of you, and try to maximize what you can do to help him.
I wish your husband rapid healing, and success to both of you in facing this apparently new challenge.
In addition, there's so much online snooping that we never know who's prowling around, gathering information that could be used negatively. With her and her husband's name, the city of residence, someone with nefarious intents could do some inappropriate snooping, and/or make unexpected illegal visits to the home when Shirley's away visiting her husband.
That's one of the reasons I didn't have an obituary published with a funeral date when my father died. Anyone reading it would know that his home is vacant, and mine would be for that day. I've been robbed once; that's more than enough.
I stand by my request to delete the specific name of the rehab center.
The facility has in house resources that you can tap into. If there is a social worker there, that person could talk to you and offer you assistance, all you have to do is ask. Do it!
How are you doing? I know it is difficult to have a life partner away for what seems to be forever. When my Husband was in rehab I was lucky enough to be able to visit him every day and help him. AND I had friends that kept in touch with me and I kept busy.
Are you able to visit him and are your friends keeping in touch with you to see how you are doing? If not you might want to give a friend a call. Being a caregiver is difficult and you often don't have time for friends so they stop calling. It might be time for you to make a call and maybe invite someone for coffee.
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