He is stubborn and won’t go to the doctor.
I don’t feel I can deal with this but, TAG! I AM IT! 😟
He got takeout food. The plastic fork broke, a tinge is missing.
One of those pokey things you stab into your food broke off and went missing.
I called his friend who is an X-ray technician (smart man).
“Get him into the ER, this is serious." He had a friend have the same thing happen, the friend went to ER. The doctor took an x-ray and saw the tinge in his intestine or stomach area.
Surgery # 1. REMOVE TINGE
Surgery # 2. PLUG UP HOLE.
This can be life threatening. Happens more often than not.
Hubby didn’t go.
After that, he said he lifted something and his side hurts. Well, let’s go to doctor. No.
I’m thinking the plastic fork which he kept for some reason (as a token). He didn’t go to Dr and he didn’t save a receipt and he is still here. Friend says that a pokey thing can actually make your body septic because intestines or bile fluid can leak into body cavity.
So here we go, we go out to dinner and he gets sick. Food poisoning? Not our first go around. It usually lasts the worst for us 4 days. Yup, we didn’t eat pizza for a whole year. I stay away from bay shrimp.
Last bout was mushroom pasta. He’s the only one who got it. He’s the only one who got sick, it’s been longer than a week. No doctor appointment.
Question.: Do I just trick him and drive up to ER or URGENT CARE?
He is constantly coughing.
This is not my first rodeo with health issues and coughs. My dad had cancer, he coughed and he had to get tapped to relieve the body cavity of fluids so organs can breath. I think I just answered my own question.
Throw in a plastic piece if a fork and bad mushrooms and whatever else is going on... that was my going to be my question.
I think I just need someone to give me the answer to go against his stubbornness and take him? Or let him decide on his own?
Maybe he just can’t think straight.
And just don't listen to what hubby wants to do or doesn't want to do. You're just going to have to take charge and do what you think is best., and calling 911 might just be the answer.
When my late husband hadn't been himself for several days and kept making a choking/coughing noise in Nov. 2018, I wanted to take him to the doctor but he said he was fine. Well I knew something was amiss, so I just went ahead and called 911 and of course my husband wasn't at all happy about that but they took him to the ER where I was told my husband had aspiration pneumonia and that he wasn't going to make it through the night.
Long story short, he did survive that but ended up with sepsis and septic shock and came home completely bedridden and under hospice care where he remained until his death in Sept. 2020.
So quit putting the ball in your husband's hands and start taking charge and do what you have to.
Also, don’t put the ball into forum members’ hands.
Just do it OP:
ER.
If all is fine, bring him straight home from ER. Staying in hospital more than necessary is also a health risk.
MIL called us and we were several hours away. “what do I do?”
I said call an ambulance. MIL said, “but she said, no! Don’t call an ambulance.”
I mean REALLY. GM was crying and moaning in the background because she had a BROKEN HIP. MIL was listening to her mother.
They are always going to say no, they don’t want to go. Should we have listened and let her lie there on the floor forever until she died? Get her a pillow, make her comfortable in front of the oven on the kitchen floor? Give her a plate of food? I’m sure you recognize how ridiculous that sounds.
I had to keep repeating to MIL, “hang up with me and call 911” and MIL kept telling her mother “she says to call 911” and GM kept saying “No, don’t call 911”
I was just about to hang up and call 911 myself when MIL decided to do the right thing and call 911.
GM died about 6 days later because she was medically fragile and the broken hip caused that house of cards to fall down.
It doesn’t matter what they want. We still have to do the right thing.
It sounds like you do well in a crisis. It’s interesting that some people intuitively know exactly what to do and others panic.
I have a friend that does exceptionally well in a crisis, yet she knows that after it’s all over, that’s when everything sinks in and then she falls apart!
You know the type, my friend is a strong woman who never cries until the crisis is over with. Then out of nowhere she will start crying about what happened. A delayed reaction to the incident.
next morning I’m at work.. I need to go to ER… well, duh…
I never saw her look so bad…
She admitted herself in…
.. but I couldn’t get her out.. finally her sister got her out 7 days later.. diagnosis? Not sure… everything test scan was ok.. chalk it up to liquid lung or chf.. they played with meds… and now if she feels different she’ll take one of those meds…
So, my trust in hospitals , I’m not too sure… and … hubs had a couple bad incidents …. But he needs to go… somewhere….
Maybe give him an ultimatum ??? Either call niw and get in to see doctor… or you’re going to ER…
One or the other???
My GFs sister was hanging drapes and put a pin in her mouth which she swallowed. Collapsed her lung.
True, he can refuse going off in an ambulance.
Is there anything that a person can say to make the EMT staff take someone off to the hospital? How does that work legally? They are supposed to help save lives.
I'm sure you wrote that distressed post in the wee hours. Any update?
"... I just need someone to give me the answer…" ok, (respectfully) it's... tine, not tinge. This is the only sure answer I can give you in this situation.
Anyway, I’ll continue calling it the fork thing.
(VentingisSNACK)
I am so sorry that your husband is so stubborn.
Tricking him sounds good to me, even if you have to tell him that you need to go to the ER for yourself (make up something) and need him to go with you to fill out the paperwork for you.
Then when you arrive inside you can let the staff know that you are concerned about your husband.
Keep us posted. We care!
he will not step out….
I will drive him there… and if he says no, I will hand him his cell to go snd see his doctor…
if he refuses… perhaps that’s when I will call 911.
You can also secretly call 911 ambulance. When they arrive, you act surprised. You have no idea who called. Must be a neighbor who heard his coughing.
Look at the title of your thread. Do as your title says. He must go.
It is amazing how we can be in denial of a health crisis.
I remember a time when I went to the movies with my friend. My friend is a nurse and she heard me wheezing and asked me if I was okay. I told her that I was fine.
My friend told me that she was going to tell my husband about my wheezing and that he needed to take me to the ER, and if he didn’t take me that she would.
I have asthma. I did end up having to go to the ER. I nearly died because I didn’t think that I needed to go. Thank God, my friend insisted on me going to the ER.
I had become lax about having my inhaler prescription refilled because I hadn’t had an attack in awhile. I received breathing treatments for several days in the hospital and was sent home with a nebulizer.
Needless to say, after being hospitalized for my asthma attack I keep my inhaler on me at all times now.
We came home from a trip .. I was coughing for a few months. A veterinarian friend told me to get tested for fungus in lungs.. I did and reluctantly the dr I had at the time gave me a lil under the skin test for TB and fungus…
fungus test spot reddened and swelled up a bit… doctors never called me back for results…
It makes me wonder how many times these things happen, huh? I suppose it could happen with someone accidentally swallowing a portion of a toothpick too.
I have two daughters. They begged to get their ears pierced. A freaky coincidence happened with them.
My daughter was 6 at the time. The earring back somehow lodged into the middle of her ear! I had to take her to the ER to have the thing surgically removed. The ER nurse said she has seen all kinds of crazy things in the ER with kids.
Guess what? When my second daughter got her ears pierced, at 6, the same thing happened to her! Crazy, huh? I thought how can this happen twice?
Again, the ER nurse said, “We see crazy incidents with kids. We have pulled stuff out of their noses and everything! They gaze up at something that they are holding and they drop it and it accidentally falls inside of their nose or open mouth! They swallow all kinds of things.”
My oldest daughter was always in trouble with the school nurse because she loved the bandaids with the characters on them. The school nurse would call me and tell me that she was pretending to be hurt, had imaginary boo boos just to get a colorful bandaid. LOL 😆
Then, I got the call from the school nurse saying that she really was hurting but she couldn’t fix it with a bandaid. She told me that the earring back was inside of her earlobe. So, off to the ER we went.
My friend who is a nurse, has a son was always taking dares to get money! He ate an entire can of cat food for $10! LOL 😆
Later that night, he started bleeding from his rectum. Cat food is full of tiny bones which is fine for cats but not humans. He went to the ER too!
It’s still up to you, if you want to follow the doctor’s advice. You and Dh decide, not the doctor. You ask for pros/cons of an operation/whatever’s recommended. Get informed and then decide. You don’t need to blindly follow everything the doctor recommends.
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