We are all in a desperate situation here.
As I have described in my previous question, my grandfather is the primary caregiver of my grandmother. He is 82 years old and is pretty much like a computer. Absolutely nothing wrong with his mind. My grandmother is fine at the moment but the issue is my grandfather
Last Saturday he rang an ambulance for himself and got himself into emergency department, leaving my grandmother and my uncle together in the house. He didn’t tell any of us what was going on. He just left. Myself and my mother rang the hospital as soon as we heard and went to see him. He seemed okay.
within a couple of days his blood tests revealed that he had pneumonia and he had a heart attack the day he rang the ambulance. He was in a general ward and was given antibiotics, oxygen and he was told that he would be getting a stent after they cleared the infection.
However two nights ago he took a turn. His antibiotics weren’t working anymore and they decided the next thing to do was move him to High Dependency. They started off by giving him 80% oxygen in a mask because his breathing was still bad. We left him that evening he was still very alert. Knew everything that was going on around him and he looked great. He was the picture of health.
However, this morning at about 3am he took another turn and his breathing worsened. Still very alert, He discussed his treatment options with his nurse and told her to sedate him and put him on the breathing tube. He was sedated but remained stable. They increased his oxygen to 100%
about 6 hours ago, they moved him to intensive care to monitor him closer. He has remained stable ever since and we have been up to see him 3 times today.
our last visit was about 2 hours ago and we had to talk with the doctor. We went into see him and he was still stable, he is still warm and honestly, he looks like the picture of health. He looks normal other than the tubes. We also saw that they decreased the amount of oxygen they have been giving him to 60% which we thought was a good thing.
When the doctor spoke to us, things only sounded worse. Most of his lungs are badly infected, sepsis etc, he needs a lot of life support and his blood pressure is dropping so they’re trying to keep that level and because of all the treatments they are giving him, his kidneys are starting to struggle and she said they may need to put him on dialysis. They’re still contemplating their next move. They may move him onto his stomach tomorrow in the hope that his lungs may improve and things will start to look up but in a nutshell she said she’s very concerned!
I’m starting to lose hope. It’s just one complication after the other. I can’t eat or sleep. I’m praying all the time but God won’t seem to answer my prayers.
Also we haven’t told my grandmother anything yet because of her Alzheimer’s but she knows something is up. She keeps asking for him and she’s saying things like “I hope you’re not hiding anything from me!” We have to tell her something. If he dies and then we tell her, it will just destroy her. She’s crazy about him. We think maybe if we bring her up to see him, hearing her voice might help him a bit but we don’t know. She might get a shock seeing him tubed up. We asked a nurse in ICU and she says maybe wait a day and see if he improves.
He he has only been in ICU for about 7/ 8 hours and his stats are still stable. He doesn’t look sickly at all. He’s warm and he’s a good colour. He looks healthier than half the patients in his ward. I just can’t understand how things are this bad! He’s very robust and strong but his age is not on his side. He is still stable. It’s just a waiting game to see if he improves or worsens tomorrow.
Please we just need some advice. It’s like a roller coaster not know what’s happening next we honestly need a miracle. Our family is already falling apart without him. Any advice?