I cannot even get one of his old t-shirts to sleep in, while she gives away sentimental items to HER kids, she did not even offer to fly me home for his burial. She had been sucking him dry financially ever since she gained control of the finances due to his C.O.P.D. not to mention the fact that she broke up our family after doing the same thing to his best yes BEST FRIEND. I know that he can't be brought back, but she needs to be held accountable. I am truly outside of myself and fear for my freedom. My father was very clear with me that he wanted me to have his watch, his wedding band, and a few other small items of a collectible nature and he made a big deal about a time share. She must have been giving him problems over which one would go to me because he called me up to ask me if I would mind the South African time share because his wife wanted the Hawaiian one. I do not even care if she sees this because she knows what she did. She did not want me to be a part of his life and he would not allow her to do that. She was, however able to keep me out of being a part of his death. How do I get a copy of his will, of which he certainly had, but she is making it impossible for me to contest? She cut me off and out before he was even in the ground. Help with advice please.
If you wish to pursue financial abuse charges you will need to prove everything you suspect in court. You should contact an experienced elder law attorney who specializes in financial abuse. This attorney can tell you if you have enough of a case to move forward. You will need to spend the money for this consult and for any legal work going forward. I'm sorry to tell you but your dad is partly to blame. If he wanted you to have certain things he should have had that legally documented and witnessed. Your dad chose this women knowing she took his best friend to the cleaners. That's on him. Again, I'm so sorry for your emotional pain. If this is all pretty recent, I would give it a little time before acting upon your suspicions so that you can make rational and not emotional decisions. May you gain peace in your heart no matter what the outcome.
You are absolutely correct-
I just want my Daddy back-
But I should be grateful for having him present for so many years-
I have never understood those type of people (her) either- but it is now over and I do not have to understand her anymore- Now that was refreshing to think and to say-
You have been a welcomed voice and I stand enlightened- I see a light where I had not-Thank you so very kindly
So, you have to call the County Probate office and ask if the Will has been probated. Then ask if you are beneficiary of that will. If so, ask if a copy can be sent to you since you have received nothing from the Executor. The Executor has to carry out the terms of the Will or u can sue.
Probating of a Will can take years if there is property or someone contests. If a house needs to be sold and the proceeds split up. All creditors have to be given time to file leans. No money can be distributed until all debts are paid.
I feel for you, but your father should have made provisions for his children long ago. As she should have for hers. Sentimental things should have been given to you if he wanted you to have them before his death. He must have realized along the way the woman he married. And I doubt if you can bring charges against the wife. She is his wife. She has a right to distribute any of his belongings to who she sees fit if he never made his wishes known in a Codicil to the Will.
Its a shame you didn't have a better relationship with her. I have never understood these kinds of people. Guess its a power thing. So sorry.
When my sister died without a Will in Md the state stepped in and appointed a lawyer who Mom answered to. The state came in and told Mom what each item should sell for. A used VCR was marked at $100, by then u could buy a new one for that. Same for an old black and white TV, over priced. My nephew was declared her only living relative and received her insurance. So, every state is different.