So recently my family in another state, but only a couple hours away, decided that my grandmother should go into a nursing home or live with a relative to take care of her. She is 71 and still does everything for herself, including driving her car. The family wanted to have a get together to decide where to put her because they think she needs to move out of her home and be cared for 24/7 because she has "Alzheimer's". However, she has never been diagnosed by a doctor, and the family here in her hometown do not believe she is at a point where she should drastically change her life. one family member out of state offered to take her in. We especially feel this is not the right choice for her since they have three kids and rent a place, they have moved 3 to 4 times in the last few years! Sure the grandson loves her, but how is that fair to sell off all of her belongings and move her into a small house with toddlers at her age. Also, she would know no one, since she was born and raised in lived in the same house her whole life here in our hometown. The two sons who live out state, came to town a couple years ago and stayed with her for a month. They did everything for her during that time. At the end of their trip, they took her to a notary to sign them as her POA and then left town and never showed back up. They did not give her a copy of the will and refused to do so when she asked recently for one. Luckily, my husband is an attorney and talked her into going to another attorney's office to void his will and POA status. Basically, how do we get them to stop harassing her over the phone about how she should not be living alone. She feels bad about herself since they call and their wives call her all day long telling her she needs to leave her home. They wanted to keep all the decisions about her care a secret from her at the beginning but her hometown family told her because it is her right,in my opinion, that she makes her own decisions while she still has her mind. The attorney that made out her new will, asked her a series of questions, ensuring that she has her mind. He is now the POA, not anyone in the family. We are tired of being harassed too, they also call us and tell us we shouldn't be letting her decide what she wants to do with her time and money. She doesn't have much left and we feel she can do what she wants. We don't need her money and she can spend however she wants. How do we get them to stop calling us!?