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Hoktuce, are your parents open to having a professional come in to help at least part time? Some people when they get older don't want to leave their home, but don't want anyone to come in. It is totally illogical, since it is putting so much responsibility on the person or people who are there. What does your mother want to happen? I know she must feel helpless, particularly if he is abusive. The abuse is normally just a way to control someone.
I couldn't get my mom to the hospital but I knew she needed to go so I waited for an opportunity (she fell, didn't get hurt) and called 911. She was so weak and feeble I knew she'd fall eventually so I just waited.
A couple of years ago, my mom did call the police on dad. Reporting domestic abuse. He spent a day in custody. He never did it again. But, in retrospect we could later identify the issue as brain damage. Wish she had had him taken to the hospital instead...they would have seen the problem..maybe in time to help him.