My Dad had a whipple surgery and beating pancreatic cancer and all odds of survival. Doctor said he was cancer free and then was injured, neglected, suffered due to nursing home staff and died with no justice please someone help me to get him the justice he deserves.
Few people survive pancreatic cancer. I just read up on the whipple and it does not seem to be an easy procedure. And I agree, its been too long to sue now. You can't expect the NH to have records from 9 years back. If they do, they are probably in a basement or warehouse. You personally would need proof for a Lawyer even to consider taking a case in the beginning. Yiu have to orove there was negligence. The doctors and nurses involved are probably no longer working at the facility. My daughter is always changing jobs. Then its remembering your Dad. Staff goes thru lots of residents in 9 years.
As an old retired RN I can assure you that, as Loopy says, your father was very unlikely to survive pancreatic cancer. I will also tell you that the Whipple procedure is one of the most difficult surgeries to survive that I personally know of. Survival is rare.
This happened in 2016. Not only is the statute run out for legal action almost certainly, but you are, if still so beset by this tragic loss and all your poor dad endured and you stood witness to, needlessly tormenting yourself for no reason. In these many years I am certain that legal counsel has already told you this.
The current DSM-5 has a new diagnosis of Complicated Grieving, and that--to ME--seems where you are stuck. I would get grief counseling now with a good cognitive therapist. Justice for your father is NOT a "thing". As the poet and undertaker Thomas Lynch said--and I don't have exact quote--when someone dies there is nothing whatsoever you can do with, for, about or TO him that will ever make any difference.
You are choosing to avoid the walk through grief by being angry and assigning blame. Your Dad wouldn't want this suffering for you.
Please get help. I am so sorry for this loss, but it is one, if we live long enough, that is inevitable. There is no way out of grief but straight through it. My heart goes out to you. Please comfort yourself that your father's suffering is over, and don't worry that when you stop grieving him he will leave you. He will never leave you. I am 82 and my Dad still lives within me, strong and kind and gentle as ever he was.
Again, so sorry.
I’m not a lawyer, but it doesn’t seem you have enough for a case. Hiring an attorney is expensive. Acting as your own attorney would be even worse. Going broke and being angry is not justice for your father.
As sad as it is, there was no way your father was going to beat pancreatic cancer.
Her bowel burst a week after the surgery, which they believe is due to the surgeon not stitching up properly. I've tried to explain how that's unlikely and that there are other reasons why the bowel will burst following a resection, such as infection (which did occur) or some other cause of inflammation - my friend has diverticulitis.
However, I think that they just need someone to blame. It's really difficult to accept that a body cannot just be fixed like a machine. We all react differently to treatment because of a myriad differences in our bodies. Medicine cannot be an exact science for this reason.
My friend had a very good chance of recovering from cancer, but her chances have now fallen due to not eating and being too weak to finish chemo. She finally agreed to an NG, so she's getting stronger and I'm just keeping my fingers crossed.
Unfortunately, I'm also aware how fragile the human body is, so I'm not holding my breath.
All this to say that I think you will not be able to prove that your dad would not have died anyway, and that I don't think it's helping you to blame others for what may have just been bad luck.
I echo what others have said about trying to get counselling to help with grief and finding closure. I think that would be your best chance of attaining peace.
I'm sure you're dad would not want you giving his death one more thought, but instead would want you getting on with living and enjoying your life.
That would be the best way to honor him and his memory don't you think?