My Dad is 87, hasn’t gone to a neurologist yet. His wife lays in bed all day and I think suffers from depression although her daughter said that she will not go for counseling. :( His wife’s son lives with them as well although he suffered from seizures as a baby and is now 46. His mom unfortunately can’t manage him so he steals, and gets in trouble w the law as well as has his cars repossessed.
All three of them need assistance and I am very worried about my Dads safety. The son told me that he wanted to stay in Florida since he has a job and attends his church (has a community of friends) but as soon as he gets paid he gives all his money away then takes his mothers money. He eats most of the food in the house so the parents eat canned soup.
i Offered for my dad to move closer yo me so I can care for both of them. I found a brand new lower level apt, but his wife refuses to move.
we can’t get in touch w dad now. Things are getting worse. The messages aren’t getting to him. I know this bec the wife’s daughter I am friendly with (we gave both tried to help them) but they want to be left alone (until my dad runs into a problem and calls me).
anyone else have problems like this and have any advice. I understand dad wants yo regain his freedom but I’m deeply worried. There is no caregiver avail there yet.
I realized it was worse than we thought and they were trying to hide it .
The wife then was in rehab after aspirating pneumonia for about the 5 th time . So we flew down and it was worse than we thought . They had both declined significantly during Covid . FIL has dementia too .
So the lack of communication that you are having could definitely mean your Dad is declining and needs help even if he were to sound ok on a phone call