My dad (86) has dementia. He is being sexually exploited by a woman who is 64 and goes to the senior center he goes to. What do I do?

I think you should just stop worrying about this. Lots of elderly people still have these feelings.maybe dad does remember but he likes her ...nobody wants to be alone ...as long as there is no wedding no worries...it's kinda cute ...Sorry ,good luck!

well I suggest to you is to get the law involved if they're not going to proceed with this fairly then you take them to court since you have video evidence proving that your father's innocent tell them your father has dementia so how can he even be considered even committing the crime if it's possible try to bring the woman on sexual abuse charges because I think that touching someone without consent is sexual abuse or molestation if you go with a lawyer you should probably win since you have video evidence

Get your father to a different senior center or daycare pronto. Looks like this old Jezebel is looking for a sugar daddy, which she will not get if your father is moved elsewhere. And get a restraining order against this stupid broad

Dighby, "I say if the guy can get some action at 86 he should get it while he can. " This is so obviously a clue to why you're here that it's laughable. Your purpose for inciting response is quite transparent. You're not fooling anyone except yourself.

What is wrong with HER? I'm 66 and the day I would be 'touching' or doing anything ELSE with an 86 year old man with dementia is the day they would be putting me into a mental ward. Eww. I have seen this kind of thing happen a time or two back when I worked with a social services organization. It is NOT romantic, sexy, or pretty, I can assure you!

GardenArtist there was nothing wrong with my post, troll someplace else.

Trying to see Dighby's point of view - that if the old boy is having fun why meddle? - it seems to me akin to what *most* men over a certain age that I've ever talked to about the subject feel about the sexual exploitation of adolescent boys by older women - teachers, cougars, "MILFs", and the like. The almost universal response has been along the lines of 'God I wish that had happened to me.'

But surely we've progressed past that? Surely we recognise that no matter how enthusiastic a young lad might be about his crush, it is wrong wrong wrong for an adult to exploit it. And surely, with this elderly gentleman, we can switch the genders in our imaginations and see how we'd feel about it if our grannies were being pestered by 64 year old toy boys, and if those in charge had dealt with it as they have.

It's purely a Protection of Vulnerable Adults question. It's not about being blue meanies with one eye on the estate.

Well obviously the woman has some sort of mental disability or alzheimers, so it doesn't make it against the law ,the cops have way more importaint things to do than get involved with a old couple with deminta haveing a love afair !gee willikers !! If it bothers you that much, change his daycare or senior home ! Again sorry ! Just my opinion ....

Lassie: I'm 70 and the day I would be even looking at an 86 year-old man would mean to the mental ward for me! Super gross! Dighby---Really?

Dighby,
From WebMD,
Erectile Dysfunction Common with Age;
The majority of younger men (74%) rated (their) sexual function as good or very good; only 10% of men older than 80 rated sexual function the same. Only 12% of younger men reported big or moderate (sexual) problems. But nearly a quarter to a third of men older than 50 reported this degree of severity in sexual function.

Come on now. Do you really think this 86 yr. old gentleman could "do the wild thing"?
This poor guy is confused (dementia) but is capable of physical pleasure, however he probably is unable to have intercourse. She may be stimulating but it's not going past first base. Read up on erectile dysfunction in the elderly.

If you think you can "get it on" when you're near 90, you're delusional. Dream on.

If he really was still interested in sex he would probably be after a woman in her 30s or 40s.  

SueC1957. There are many 70+ folks still "getting it on"

Llamalover47 Yet there are some 70 something women trying to hook up with men in their 20s, 30s or 40s. That's not gross?

Physical affection has another dimension, sexual tension does not require an erection, a man with a pension without any question still needs a love session, and need I mention, this old texan does not need a lesson on physical expression. The woman's aggression and its progression might be a misconception. Maybe her contention is his attention, and although not doing it in the normal convention, or with normal discretion, that doesn't make it a transgression. My impression, is she has no obreption, or deception, just a harmless obsession, wants to make a love connection, or something in that direction. Her inception of love is not an infection or deception, you should not be worried about her intention.

I think Dighby's trying to be a poet.

Someone's playing games.

Pyediana has not been back to elaborate after 6 days and this is getting ridiculous, I suggest we let this thread die.

If you are his POA: can you put an intervention order against her?

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Dighby, did you curl up with a doobie and a dictionary to pump out that linguistic masterpiece?
Aaahahaha, you go Tejano! (Texan in Spanish)

Yeah, I'm with CW, if Pyediana doesn't care to (or maybe can't) comment, let this one go.
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