Folks, my 57 year old cousin dropped out of touch with me after Wednesday evening (day before Thanksgiving) and after leaving a phone message, trying Facebook, and then trying to call again but finding both her answering services being full, I called in a welfare check to the police. She lives 15 hours away from me, unfortunately.
They found her deceased in her home, rescued 2 of the 3 cats, told me the house was at least somewhat hoarded with trash and cat poop, and determined it was natural causes, probably a heart attack. After a full day of phone calls, messages and posts, there is one friend who wants to attend her funeral, and about 20 different tax liens and a sheriff's sale pending in January.
I was POA, and am executor and next of kin, and I found her papers and read details of the will to the funeral home she wanted and notified everyone I could reach; sadly only one cousin, one uncle, and one old friend have even been in touch, only the one old friend has an interest in going to the funeral. I'm relatively clueless about what to do now. I may be able to get off work long enough for a quick trip up there. Nevermind my emotions - angry at her for not disclosing the extent to which she really needed more help, angry at myself for not going up there for a visit in person (granted, she discouraged me) and for not calling in the welfare check sooner (she was probably, possibly alive on Thanksgiving day) and just grieving the loss and the lonely ending to a life mostly spent teaching and pastoring others. Looking for advice, perspective, and sympathy, not necessarily in that order.