M brother is still at the mortuary waiting for his living siblings to sign the proper paperwork. Two of his siblings are willing to sign what is needed. Three are refusing to sign and even won't sign a waiver. It is costing a $100.00 a day in storage. What can we do?
I hope that this issue is resolved swiftly so that you can say goodbye and have closure.
In the meantime, if there is a place that you associate with your brother, perhaps you could go there and say a few words to him, so that you can start to grieve properly.
I know that a delay can affect the grieving process, as there was a month between my mum's death and funeral. I realised, afterwards, that it wasn't the funeral that was important, but talking about her with others who knew her. And talking to her.
Take care of yourself.
There is a next of kin or an executor involved here, I would assume; that person is responsible to make arrangements for the burial of this gentleman.
As to his "waiting" at the funeral home; he isn't waiting for anything anymore.
The undertaker/poet Robert Lynch makes it clear that where the dead are concerned, once they are gone there is nothing that can be done to, for, with, or about them that will make any difference to them.
Sadly, while this disagreement goes on there will be no remedy, so I would ask the funeral home director what is done when there is no apparent executor nor trusted next of kin, and family disagrees. This is, I agree with others, a LEGAL issue now.
However, it turned into a lovely, shared moment.
We talked about her favourite music, flowers (she preferred donations to charity instead), how people should dress - "all in black to show just how much they miss me," she said with a wicked grin - and what type of service at the crematorium.
I was surprised by some of her choices, but most were in keeping with what I knew about Mum. We had a giggle at the expected reaction of friends and family by the choice of Billy Fury singing "Halfway to Paradise" as we say farewell to her coffin. Mum wondered whether that would be in bad taste, but I said it would be good to smile, thinking of Mum dancing to her teenage pop idol at the end. It proved to be the case, except for me being wracked with sobs.
I'm going to make sure that I arrange my funeral, soon. I'll let my daughter know what I've done and where to find the documentation. The only certainty in life is death, so there's no avoiding it.
May The Lord touch your siblings and cause your brothers wishes to be fulfilled.
May HE give you all peace, guidance and wisdom during this difficult time.