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I wonder sometimes if he is using mums money to pay for his own things as he's very secretive. Can I request a monthly snapshot of our mother's finances, is he required to provide it to me? Also can I be a "looker' and would I have to go to my solicitor with my mum and brother to do this?

I don't what country you live in that they allow other people to sign legal POA paperwork for someone else, but here in America, only the person who's needing/wanting to designate POA's can legally sign that paperwork themselves.
Otherwise it would be null and void.
But if your brother is now legally the POA for your mum(which it doesn't sound like he is), then he doesn't have to share anything with you or anyone else. However he should be keeping meticulous records as to where her money is going and why, as that is part of the duties of a POA, and could effect your mum and her care in the future negatively.
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HE can not ask you to be another person's POA
Your mother would have to ask you to be her POA.
If your mother is not competent to appoint anyone POA then you are looking at a Guardianship situation. (In the USA, not sure where you are)
If you think your brother is misusing your mothers assets then you contact an attorney and report it as Financial Abuse of an Elder. (I am sure this is true in any country)
If you are currently POA and your brother is asking you to relinquish your POA so he can be POA and you suspect financial abuse it is your duty, your responsibility to see that all expenses from your mothers assets are going for HER care and not to enrich anyone else. If you are POA and he is misusing funds you are just as responsible as he is for the abuse.
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We have no idea what country she is in, therefore cannot give you any practical advice. We could be giving you wrong guidance so you should research your question online using an AI aggregator like ChatGPT, as a start but should ideally ask a lawyer (solicitor) for her country of residence. Long distance legal management of another's affairs can be difficult, especially if your Mom's cognition is impaired and you don't trust her caregiver (your brother).
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I have never heard of a "looker".
A POA can only be given BY the principal, in this case your mother, and only if your mother is competent to make decisions. It cannot be manipulated by a brother with a document. So I do not know what you signed or how the document you signed is working.

In general, the POA has full power, once appointed (by your mother) to manage her finances and keep their meticulous records. They do not EVER have to share these records, which are your mother's private business, with anyone else EXCEPT a judge.

If your brother is somehow now the legal POA (and I don't see how he can be unless the document only make him your agent while you remain the legal POA) then he need not share any information.

IF you suspect your brother of elder abuse and fraud you would have to have an attorney in THIS country go to court to request a judge examine records. These records would not be shared with you.

You might start with calling APS where mother lives.
1. Place call to APS
2. Send APS the documents you signed that you claim make brother POA
3. Ask APS to make a wellness call and ask brother about his management of mom's finances.
4. Await APS report to you which either will or will not be reassuring.
5. Decide how to proceed.

Good luck.
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