My mother has 7 living children who are all doing well with the exception of 1 daughter whom she wants to leave the house. I am honoring my mothers wishes to help her update the will. Not all the daughters agree with my mothers decision. My mother is of sound mind. I need some advice please. Thank you
A 20 year old will should have been updated anyway long ago, so make that lawyer appointment today.
She has chosen to give her remaining assets to the child she sees as being in the most need of them.
Whether that is "right" or "wrong" is not my decision to make, nor yours, nor the other sibling's.
Stay out of it.
If your mother is of sound mind she is capable of contacting her own attorney and doing her own will. It's too bad she has involved you all to this extent instead of doing it herself. Any attorney can assist her with drawing up in her will her wishes and her reasons to be read after her death.
Everyone can go nuts at that time; she will be dead and uneffected.
A friend or neighbor of your mom can drive her the a lawyer's office, if that's what she wants. Anyone who goes there with her should be prepared to sit in the waiting room, because a lawyer will want to question mom extensively about her intent and capability. The lawyer will want to ensure that mom isn't being coerced. Personally, I wouldn't want to be within 10 miles of such an appointment if she were my mom! It's her circus and her monkeys. Let her be the sole ringmaster.
You state you are honoring your mothers wishes. How so? Driving to the attorney so she can update the will? Does this update benefit you? And if not, Why doesn't your mother ask the one she is going to leave the house to drive her. After all the one benefiting should do the grunt work as well and all those not involved with the directive should stay out of that business regardless of honoring a wish. That is my advice.
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