Mum is getting more and more aggressive, Advice?

if you have an electric range , throw the breakers and go to spain for a week . moms probably worn out with being babysat too .

Tried that Cap! Knocked out the fridge! No its ok my sis will be here to mummysit its just my sister dosnt belive me when i say dont leave her alone she just dosnt get it and thinks mums ok? why would she when she only sees her 3 times a year? Yep hope mum throws a BIG wobbly then sis can see how serious this illness is!

Kazzaa, hang in there, we are all pulling for you. Prayers.

Caregiver99, no one here pretends to be "expert" unless they are certified as such by Agingcare.com. We are folks who have been in the trenches of caregiving mostly for parents with dementias of various sorts. We share our experiences, not expertise. But there is great wisdom in this crowd, and hearing a dozen folks who've walked in your shoes give you the same advice, whether it's that it's time for medication, for NH, for AL, to detach with love, is a powerful experience.

Hugs and prayers for you my dear. I feel your pain. My Hubs was recently asked to leave his day care because he was becoming aggressive. Nothing like what you are dealing with ..yet. Not getting much help from the Dr so far but I will suggest the Depakote next time we see her. Need to do something soon. Day care was the only thing keeping me sane. Its been 24/7 now for nearly two months. Hang in there. Oh and Im with Cap... lets all go to Spain for a week

Spain sounds lovely. I'd like to play tourist - do the whole bit - camera hanging round my neck, taking the tour buses, etc... sigh....

bookluv you will get to do these things one day travelling is nothing now and so much cheaper than it used to be!
Of course you are all welcome to come to Ireland anytime! you can look after mum while i go to the pub!!!!!!!!!!

Luann, I can only say that you need to tell the doc that if you can't send hubs to daycare, you need to place him. Some doctors hear better than others!

Try another daycare, some are better than others at handling these situations. My mom was at a daycare run at a local church. There were a few professionals there but mostly nice ladies from the church volunteering. Dad might need a more structured environment. Hope this helps a bit.

ba8alou: The Hubs gets all his care at the VA here in Madison and I think his geriatric shrink is leaning in the NH direction. We have an apt next week to see a social worker to discuss our options. Problem is I'm not sure I'M ready for that yet. I put the stress of 24/7 care along side the stress of getting to the NH every day (no car) and wondering if he is being well taken of, or maybe even harmed, when I'm not there; I'm not sure which is worse. And if I do place him then I have to get a job as his SS is our only income and they will take that if I'm not mistaken. A lot to think about and I have been putting off the 'thinking' for some time now.

Check the thread re: mom is in
NH and aids are not doing work...afraid to say anything,
Very scary regarding the care people are not getting.