She is 87, and has been at her community based residential facility place A for one year and I found a better faciltiy. Place A is like being at a circus all of the time, and Place B is quiet and home like. Place A has end of life commitment but there are a lot of residents there in wheelchairs and jerry chairs that are yelling out all of the time. This is very upsetting to both my mom and the family and feels like a nursing home. Mom is in the early to mid stage of dementia. They only people mom has bonded with at Place A has been the caregivers and they are so busy with all of the high need residents that mom has been in same clothes for 4 days straight and they don't put on her compression stockings.
Mom's health is stable: AFIB under control, eyesight is going, dental under control, hearing not a problem, knee replacement over 18 months ago and great recovery. Her physical health is well monitored and all visits are current. She is just starting to forget family members.
The pros for staying are obvious: less disruption to mom and she has already put in 12 months of her 24 month commitment. (In Wisconsin all CBRFs ask for a 2 year verbal financial commitment before taking a new resident.) We have the funds to start over for another 24 months - but it will be really tight and we will have to give up some luxuries (phone, weekly beauty shop trips)
The question really is: Do the pros outweigh the disruption to mom's life?