My Mother is 90 years old, and still lives alone in the house that she owns in Chelsea, MA just outside of Boston. I have one brother who lives 1/2 half mile away from my Mother, a 5 minute drive by car. My brother has POA and my Mother named him as the Executor of her will. My Mother has added him to her checking and savings account. He told me he would help our Mother out by picking up her medications, and food, and would take her food shopping, since she wants to go with him to pick out her own food. So far, he only takes her once in a great while, and my Mother ends up taking a taxi to the Drug Store, Bank, and food shopping. She told me she does not want to impose on his time, he has things to do on the weekends, then she complains that she has to pay for a taxi cab. All the relatives think that me and my husband should be the ones to take her on errands and to her Doctor appointments. We have done that for the last 5 years. However, my husband and I live 30 miles away in the suburbs, about an hours drive, we have lived here for over 41 years. We are now finding it more difficult to make the drive thru the Boston traffic, and my husband and I have had our own health problems and many Doctor visits. My Mother is blind in one eye, and has poor eyesight in her "good eye" all due to years of Glaucoma. She also has hearing loss and was told she needs hearing aids, but refuses to get them. She said they are too expensive and they don't work very well. She has plenty of money to buy them. Her Primary care Doctor, and her Podiatrist told her that she would be able to walk more easily, with better balance, if she would use a cane. She refuses to use one. I have spent days and weeks staying at her house to help her out with many things. I have often put my life on hold. My problem is this: I have tried to have the family get-togethers at my house, but my Mother insists on having everything at her house. She wants to do all the food shopping and all the cooking, which means someone has to go with her. I was getting pretty fed up with this arrangement. I finally spoke up and said that it was not fair that my husband and I are always the ones to drive to her house, and that no one wants to come to our house. I feel so guilty that I said this to her. Am I right or wrong about this?