In the last couple of years, my mother and father live in the same household, but have a strained marriage off and on over the last ten years. My father in the last decade has battled diabetes and recently, he became a dialysis patient. Recently, he left my mom to live with my uncle. He has named my uncle as the POA and my mom is very upset. They have been married for 50 years, in a community property state.
If dad has just started dialysis, well that seems to be very very time consuming for all. If dad is bad diabetic - like brittle, insulin dependent, having vision & circulation issues - plus newly needing dialysis, his care plan is going to be a lot of hard work if he is compliant and health conscious. If he is not, it's likely to be hellish. I'd be concerned that uncle becomes less enchanted with his brother over time but long enough to decrease dads assets before dad goes back to mom even older & more debilitated and poorer and even less nice.
So what do you think would be best for your mom? If dad is not a nice & fair person, do you & your siblings have the ability to tell dad this? And back your mom to do the plan the attorney suggests?