Wife and I are thinking of moving my mother out of her assisted living apartment (there was a COVID scare and there are ongoing visitation and socialization restrictions) and moving her permanently into our home. The thought of leaving her there alone and isolated does not sit well but we are also worried about negative impacts to mother and ourselves. Wife and I live alone, big house, no issues financially.
Are we crazy?
Wear masks outside. Shoes off at door. Wash hands immediately when home. Change into inside only clothes. Wipe all groceries. Regularly disinfect light switches, taps & doorknobs. (I'm sure you have your own routine... our family does & so far so good).
How about a compromise of Mother in your home but home aides for a few hours too? (Masked of course).
Before you decide to move her into your home think about it. Is she happy where she is in her apartment at the AL? If she is, then let her stay there. Is it possible for her to come to your house and stay for a couple of months instead of moving in?
You can go crazy with worry with Mother in AL, locked up & lonely. Or you can go crazy taking care of Mother fulltime.
I suppose just choose the crazy you want? 🙃
Lots of people post on this board that moving seniors into their home was a huge mistake. I realize that, but for me, I want to bring my LO home, if at possible to make her comfortable and at peace, even if it is very difficult. Would she have more social interaction at the faculty? If she has friends and strong bonds with people at the AL, she may have more stimulation there than in your home. What does she say about it?