My MIL had rectal bleeding took her to the doctor yesterday and after a rectal exam the doctor found a large mass that he said he was pretty sure was cancer. She has an appointment tomorrow for a biopsy. She is in pretty good health especially for 90. I am hoping if it is cancer the doctor will give my husband the right advice for treatment. My husband's mother unlike my mom has always been pretty healthy. She was just in the hospital about a month ago for the first time since my husband was born and he is 60 for a blood clot in her lung they put her on blood thinners and also a statin drug that is the only medication she takes. Her short term memory is not good at all, but she still piddles in the yard (she lives next door to us) and is very pleasant all the time. My husband thinks since she is still active that surgery should be an option I on the other hand think that quality time is important and have seen with my on mom that the healing process is hard on the elderly and I found with my mom that every surgery took more away.
Any experiences from you guys with surgery at 90 ? I know I am assuming the worst but the doctor seemed pretty positive by the size and feel of the mass and he did schedule the biopsy quick.
My mom is still in the NH cannot walk her mind is going at a rapid rate I would not wish that on anyone. My experience and perception is very different from my husbands, but I do know it is their decision or his I am not sure how much his mom retains when told.