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She wears diapers and is helped to the toilet each morning, and now don't go poop on her own. Its like her body want to poop but she just sits there unresponsive. What can we do. Her son refuse to put her in a care home.

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Sometimes the brain no longer is triggering the signal for them in later stages. You have to make sure they don't get impacted bowel.

Here is sure fire way to help her go and keep her regular.

Get MIRALAX and depending on how long it's been, give her about 4 capfuls dissolved in warm drink, coffees or tea ( dissolve 2caps/cup) and have her drink. There is no taste. You can even put in a cup of broth. Then keep her hydrated and sipping or drinking liquids all day. Likely she will go, no cramping or discomfort.

Then, daily, give her capful in 1cup of coffee, tea, each morning and this will keep her regular.

Miralax is a miracle stool softener that works great and predictably and will keep her regular. The key is to ensure person also drinks a lot of liquids thru the day to keep the bowel hydrated and help Miralax work.

Good luck.

To relieve constipation quickly as a jump start, you can have her drink a small bottle of magnesium citrate(available for $1 at grocery or drugstore where laxatives are). This works within hours vs overnight. Just be prepared that she will go to bathroom several times for about 2 hrs. But she'll be cleaned out. Then you can start the daily Miralax.
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She may need a stool softener. Ask her doctor if you can give her one.
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Activia yogurt works like a boss. She'll go whether she wants to or not. Get ready! lol

And what Sunflo said, too.
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my mom has the same problem, try a dose of miralax every other day, it works magic
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We use Miralax EVERY morning, we put it in my MIL's prune juice. We started out with a capful but now, since we give it to her every day, we only use a half cap. We also give her LOTS of liquids throughout the day. MY MIL doesn't go on her own either so when we put her on the toilet (she also doesn't walk so there are 2 of us that have to put her on the toilet and take her off), one of us will sit with her and rub her bowel area, in a counterclockwise fashion, we can feel the gas bubbles gurgling around in there. Then when she starts to pass gas, we apply a slight amount of pressure in the same area to help push it out.

It sounds terrible but the end result is that she is NOT constipated anymore. She is 90 years old, lives home with us and this is just one of the many small things we do for her to keep her out of a nursing home/hospital with a blockage.

We have tried the Magnesium Citrate ... it took 6 or more hours to work on her and then we had the worst mess we could ever think of having, because she couldn't tell us when she had to go nor could she get to the bathroom on her own. The Miralax is a miracle!!!!!
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You have excellent help from above, also, just a thought, if mom is taking any codeine, a small amount with aspirin type med can cause constipation.
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Not getting rid of fecal waste can result in an impacted bowel which is both painful and if not removed, can rupture the intestines. You do not mention if she is taking any medication which usually will constipate one. Ask the doctor which one or ones she is taking that might be causing the impaction, or if it is the dementia's effects (bodily functions will continue to slow and then not work). If your husband will not put her in a care facility, you will have to deal with this problem and get some results as soon as possible. Try magnesium citrate gel capsules three times a day until she goes. You can also find it in a liquid form for about $.98 at Walmart in their pharmacy. She needs to go and the sooner the better! Merry Christmas!
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Metamucil does not work for everyone and she needs to find a solution before the feces becomes impacted. Metamucil has a glycol chemical ingredient which will exacerbate the issue. I'm done talking about this because my husband has been dealing with this issue for the 30 yrs. we have been married which means I have been dealing with it.
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Sorry I mixed up Joy's question with the information Sprtsjylene gave.
To clarify further an obstruction is a medical emergency and the patient will have unbearable abdominal pain and fecal like vomiting. Left untreated they will die within 24-48 hours. the treatment is surgical. One sure sign of this is the complete absence of bowel sounds. This happens sometimes in patients with colon cancer and they can have surgery but the obstruction will return in weeks or months. These patients are usually very lucid and can understand what is going on and make their own decisions. If they elect for no treatment it is possible to keep them pain free and sedated as they wish until they pass.
An impaction needs to be dealt with urgently and may require the use of enemas and Miralax from above. I think Joy could try some of the techniques the other poster suggested but consult MIL's Dr if she has not passed a stool in five or more days. It may take a visit to the ER to get her cleaned out. I still stand by the use of Metamucil for routine bowel care amongst other methods suggested. What works for one may not work for another. She may be impacted but you would know if she had an obstruction.
Are you able to manage your MIL at home if her son is refusing N/H?
at the end of life all systems become weak and it may be that MIL can't push the poop out because she does not have the strength or has forgotten how.
now I'm done talking about this too!
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Warm prune juice is what my doctor said to give my dad.
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