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My MIL accused my FIL of stealing cash from her last summer. When we were cleaning the vacay home this year I found it behind a chair in her room.. never would have found it except my Mom moved the chair to clean Maybe it fell out of her purse. or she hid it. Check around, it may turn up in a wierd place.
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Sweetpeas, my mom always thought things were being stolen. They were always in her room . I agree that it would suck is someone was stealing. Do ALL the staff have master keys? That seems unlikely. You might sit quite with management and ask if there is someone new hired? In the meantime, give mom Sigler and arrange to pay for other stuff in advance.
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Ba8 you are right but it is not her fault that it was stolen. No one should be going through her stuff without her consent ever!! This is just wrong but it happens all the time am sure. It just really sucks when it happens to you.
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Ba8 she doesn't need any money she just thinks she does in case she needs it. She never goes shopping unless she is with me and I have her money. We did search her room to see if it had been stashed somewhere but with no luck. The people there all see, so nice.... I guess you just never know! :(
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Sweetpeas, I think that you mom's dementia may be advancing beyond the point where she can handle money.
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its hard to tell what the elder is up to when your not there . my aunt has a 12 pack of a & w root beer missing . im sure shes giving them to other guests . i s'pect they have quite a black market going on ..
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Okay I do admit they do some pretty strange things which are hard for us to understand. It is so frustrating!!
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"Well, she is not that crazy yet to do something like that."

Neither was my mom, Sweetpeas.
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Well she is not that crazy yet to do something like that. She is. Not supposed to take any money out of her trust she has there, but she forgets. We did put a restriction on her only taking out $50 at a time once a week then we told not to take any of it out but that is not working. We will just have to take it all out I guess so she can not get a hold of it. So sad!
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I'm going to assume for the moment that the money was actually stolen. What does your mother need cash money for? By law, at least in ny there has to be a locked drawer on safe in an AL room. Can your mom keep her money there? Whatever she thinks she needs cash for, I would try to arrange to pay for by credit card over the phone.
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Give her the money in a trust account with the facility. No cash.

I'm not convinced anyone stole it. That sure wouldn't be my first thought with my mom - who also has dementia. I found $800 (in $100's) cut up with scissors and in the garbage can at her house one day. (She always had that 'back money' people talk about.) She didn't remember doing it.

The bank exchanged it after we taped it all back together. A miracle it wasn't just thrown out.
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We did file a police report. The management was trying to tell the police that it wasn't their fault and that we must be mistaken. They don't want their reputation to suffer. I will not be keeping my mouth closed that's for sure. It it keeps happening they are going to lose a lot of business.
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Mom is in AL and has a lock box in her closet. She still can't keep track of her money. She ends up hiding it in different places, jacket pockets, purse, you name it. She even lost her Blue Cross cards. I found them in her address book.
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i got even . dried out my wet boots in AL microwave -- blew that sucker up ..
got my boots dry though ..
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those crack hors stole my mothers hydrocodone right out of the mail , out of her purse , out of her med box . they stole 400.00 cash from her purse . its so prevailant that cops arent geared to deal with it . bout your only consolation is -- someone that disgusting is going to have one sad , tragic life .
its caused by sick management . force them to make it right or file a police report . the cops arent going to solve it but nh administrater dont want them around -- good leverage for you ..
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