Over the past year I have joined my mother in her doctor visits because her memory is declining and she doesn't fully relate any issues or medical care but, does rely on me to help her with it at home. She fully and agreeably relies on my judgement to help. Her doctor is extremely dismissive of me in person. On the first visit, I handed her the FULL DPOA and she immediately told us that means nothing unless mom is incapacitated. I thought that was a regular "springing" POA that worked like that. The last two times she asked mom about her affairs being in order and she was told (by mom) that I am her primary home care and take care of everything for them...bill paying, house cleaning, shopping, cooking, appointments. The second time when mom told her that, she got closer to mom and looked pointedly at her and asked "and the rest of your children know this". I kept silent but was a bit put off. My family is tight and they all support me and are grateful I am able to be there as I am. I have one brother who comes to assist when my father is more incapacitated as his health is in much greater decline. There was a recent episode and mom had a bad morning with dad's care before her visit so she was visibly shaken. The doctor made comments like "How nice of your son to come and stay with you and your daughter is able to "bop in". WTH - I more than "BOP IN". They live next door and I am there 2-3 times each day. I never leave my property without taking them for a ride. I cook for them, clean, yard work, EVERYTHING. I wanted to set her straight but, mom has had her as her doctor for 20 years and she's almost 89. How do I inform this doctor she is overstepping her bounds and that as DPOA that I DO indeed have a say in what goes down. I wished she had just tended to moms' health. Instead she spent the whole visit talking about my fathers and his impending death and what was mom going to do. We have that covered and she has been told that 3 times now. I am a professional who owns my own business and has assigned staff to handle it while I spend my time caring. I do not rely on any income or inheritance from my parents and seek nothing but to help them in their elder years but, this doc is really rubbing me the wrong way.