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She just keeps crying and crying. I feel helpless.

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Anti to many of us our animals mean more than humans. They're there for us, loving us unconditionally 24/7 through thick and thin and they don't care whether we're fat, thin, rich or poor, whether we live in a mansion or a shack. You don't say whether it was a dog, cat or ? but it had a very special place in your mother's heart, a place where no mere mortal can ever go, and it's natural that she will be distraught.

She will grieve for a very long time and you must let her. Remind her how many wonderful times they had together and what a fabulous life her pet had. If her pet was suffering at the end remind her it doesn't hurt any more and it has crossed the Rainbow Bridge. Print this out for her http://www.petloss.com/rainbowbridge.htm.

I'm not religious, more of a spiritualist if you like, but I have felt and sometimes heard my furkids who have gone over the Bridge. They never truly leave us and their spirits walk by our sides into eternity, until we meet again.

In looking for a little country house over a year ago I drove back roads forever but I kept being drawn back to this one dilapidated cottage in the middle of nowhere, which I bought. Having moved in I discovered a dog grave in the back yard, Blondie, barely 2 years old.

Did Blondie bring me here? I don't know but I've experienced many things in my life that cannot be explained. Photos taken in the house sometimes show spirit orbs and my dogs often stare at "something" on their level in the dining room. Sometimes, when my dogs go out into the back yard to potty at bed time they'll stand, sniff and wag like they're greeting another. You may think I'm odd but I've never felt safer, happier and somehow protected in my life as I do here.

Allow your mother to grieve and help her in that grief. I don't know your circumstances but eventually maybe adopt another older pet from rescue, assuming you will take it in when she passes - I have my mother's dog & cat, along with my own. I've had big rescue dogs life long but, now as I'm older than dirt, I only adopt seniors so hopefully I leave no-one behind.
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I completely agree with Ashlynne. Let your mom grieve in her own way, in her own time. When a beloved pet leaves us for Rainbow Bridge, there's precious little anyone can say that will fill the enormous void that the pets passing has left. I would encourage you mom to talk about her pet. Ask her questions about what her pet was like, the silly things it did, the "almost-human" things, etc. You might consider buying her a small remembrance gift, such as a locket with the pets pic inside, and the pets name engraved on the back. This would give her something tangible to hold onto that involves her pet, as well as show her that you honor the loving bond that was shared between the two. It's such a painful thing to go through..please be patient with her, as it will take some time. Remind her that her pet is still very much with her, but he/she has transformed to Spirit not easily seen by our mortal eyes. We cannot see the wind, but we know it exists as it causes the leaves on the trees to shiver. And so it is for our pets who pass on. Like the wind, they are with us, even if we cannot see them.
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Moms pet was a small dog. My mom lives with me for three years now. She is still crying. We will bury her dog in our yard so she can visit as she wishes.
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Antifreq, I once bought a stuffed animal similar to a friend's dog that died...... It brought great comfort for her..... your mom will need to grieve this huge loss... Sometimes just holding someone and allowing them to cry can comfort....The grieving process takes time. I dread the day our senior dog goes..... I will be the same.
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website: rainbowbridge will explain it all.
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I started to post but it was wayyyy to long and about me which I didn't want. I will just say (and I apologize for those of you who have seen this info before) that animal therapy is getting a LOT of attention. Research has shown that animal therapy reduces anxiety in different populations. My dog is a therapy dog - our organization is Therapy Dogs International. I believe they do individual home visits as well as facility visits. Their website is http://www.tdi-dog.org. I don't know if its too soon or whatever but hope this helps!
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Make a big deal of burying Mom's dog. If you are religeous hold a little service, just as one would with a childs pet. make a coffin and line it with the dogs blanket and toys or collar or name tag. Whatever Mom wants. Save a piece of the dog's hair and make a memory book with photographs. keep the memory alive until mom is ready to let it go. Don't try and take her mind off it she needs to grieve and the loss does not go away overnight. In a few weeks introduce another dog on trial into the house hold and if she bonds keep it otherwise unless you want a dog yourself now send it back.
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