Dad died earlier this year and mom lives alone. Overall she is OK and can take care of herself but complains about hip and back pain and tiredness a lot. (she is 88, but overall fairly good shape). Nonetheless, she has bad hearing too and doesn't wear her hearing aids when she is home as she doesn't like them. So we call, and she doesn't answer often so we worry about her. We got her a safety pendant but refuses to wear it, saying her friends don't have them. We said maybe her friends don't complain about hip and back pain and being tired all the time, and they either hear phone ring when called or wear hearing aids so that she can hear phone ring.
My brothers and I have asked her to do this FOR US. So we don't have to worry if we call and she doesn't hear phone. But while she is an OCD people pleaser, straining to have the proper Christmas meal, give the most perfect presents, we say all we really want is for her to wear hearing aids and safety pendent so we don't have to worry as much. But she wont do it. Guess not much we can do - We cannot make her wear it.