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No, you will not eventually get her to agree, ever. Will you sell your house or rent it off? If you sell it, not only will you be ditching your belongings but you'll be trapped in their house with nowhere to go and totally at her mercy. Been there, done that. Seven horrendous years of my life gone until I was free.

I suggest you and your siblings get together and arrange for some paid outside help for your parents. Whatever you do, don't consider throwing your life away by going ahead with this.
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I agree. My siblings & I tried that but my mom has a total meltdown anytime we talk about more than she said, stated above. I finally gave in because feel I can eventually get her to agree with more after I'm there & she sees what help I am. I live out of state. What are the chances that will work?
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Here! Here! Listen to cwillie..
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Just lay it on the line...Mom, if I am going to live with you I need to be able to feel comfortable and have my own things, or I won't be able to go through with this.

This is the time that you sit down and have a serious discussion about how long you are staying, how much care you are willing to give (are you up for bathing, toileting, diaper changes...), and how you will be compensated for what you are giving up.
I strongly recommend you set up a caregiving contract and be paid, make allowances for pay increases as their needs increase. At the same time make sure their POAs are complete and that you are all on the same page about life extending procedures.
You might think all of that is overkill, but too many of us have jumped in to help our parents temporarily and find ourselves still there years later struggling with their care needs and facing a future of poverty. One thing is certain, they will get older and their health will decline. And any estate that you may be counting on may need to be used up for their needs, or become the bone of contention that tears apart the remaining family.
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