She has started accusing me of stealing her things. She and my dad live together and he caregivers her. I usually visit at least once a week but now she is accusing me of stealing (tablecloths and jewelry). This is absolutely not true. I feel I should not visit anymore, for fear that she'll continue to accuse me...my dad doesn't back me up, I believe because doing so will make the home life even worse. Our childhood (I have an older sis) was always dis functional with my mom and dad having constant violent arguments along with everything from bigotry to not being able to keep friends, to calling me and my sis names...on and on. This disfunction continues in their current relationship. My father is drinks, many times heavily, and now with my mom's deteriorating mental health, the situation is pretty bad and now focused on me. My father refuses to allow my sis or I to help or to take any of our advice such as declaring a medical power of attorney to supplement their living will..and etc. I don't know what to do. I feel like I should just stay away...save myself...and am starting to realize that the same issues in my childhood are prevalent and magnified in their old age. Should I stay away? Is there any way I can convince my mom that I'm here to help and would never steal from them? (Btw...there has never been a history of my doing anything like that and so this is totally out of the blue). How do I deal with this?