She still values her independence and has seemed 15-20 years younger than she is for the last 30 years. Any suggestions on what might be causing this constant need to sleep.
We can't diagnose her on this forum. Perhaps it is best to make a doctors appointment? How old is your Mom? What are her current ailments/limitations/diagnoses? Is she eating? Does she eat pureed foods?
I don't know, but it could be a UTI, (bladder infection). Some drug stores now carry home test kits. Bladder infections can cause confusion and fatique, and are common in the elderly.
It's hard to say. You don't leave much information on your mom. Her age, what is her problem, how long she's had it. What was she like before? And what is New now - other than sleeping all the time. Really, it's hard for us to even guess or give advice.
Father had UTI recently. He was very confused. He couldn't remember my name or who I am. He was seeing more people (I cannot see them). He couldn't tell if it was morning or night, struggled with words. And he was soooo violently angry. After he came home from the hospital, he was back to his old self.
I have been living with my mom for many many years, it was just me and her, i have three brothers but they all have there own lives so it was just me and her. in the past year she has let five other relatives more in and none of them has given her any money or helped around the house,there eat the food she buys. well to the point my brother move in with his three big dogs that just run around like there no tomorrow and I'm afraid that she will be knock down and get injured. can i get control of the house.
Hardtimes - Does your mother have dementia? Do you have legal power of attorney? If she is mentally competent, and she is willing to let your brother and the dogs move in, there's not much you can do. If she's willing to sign control over to you, then you have some power. Talk to your local area council on aging, but you may have to get a lawyer.
It's hard to watch someone allow themselves to be in harm's way when you can't do anything to protect them.
How strong a relationship do you have with your mother? Is it strong enough that you can discuss with her that when people move in, even if they are relatives-that you expect them to do their share. If they have a job,then they should contribute to the bills and food. Explain that they are grown-ups and not minors or teenagers. If they don't have a job, then they need to contribute in other ways like home maintenance, doing the meals and even grow a small garden to help contribute with the food.
As for brother with the 3dogs, explain the expense of having these dogs and that brother should be responsible for them.
You can show her the receipt of the grocery and all your bills. Total the cost so that she can see how much she is paying to support these grown-ups. Explain that most young adults living with their parents are expected to contribute to the household. The same should apply to these relatives.
When I had itemized our total monthly expenses vs father's income, he realized that he was overspending and that we were dipping into his emergency fund. He was able to help me keep his spending within his monthly budget.
Thank you Whitney and Perseverance. I accidently sent the info before I was finished writing. My first post. The idea of a bladder infection or UTI had not occurred to me. This is so different for me. She has had "fatigue periods," largely because she has overdone it at something, but this is different. She doesn't want to go to her doctor, says it is too much trouble and that she doesn't feel like going. I will take her temp and try to convince her otherwise. I think she at least needs bloodwork. Thank you for your responses.
Hi Barbara, I hope you're able to persuade your mom to go the clinic. Father was in severe pain for weeks and just absolutely refused to go. I was sooo desperate, I called Adult Protective Service, who referred me to the adult elder lawyer, who said that he's an adult and his decision. I went to his insurance to see if anything can be done, and they referred me....back to APS! I finally gave up and decided to wait it out. He finally changed his mind when he had a hard time breathing - he also had a bad case of pneumonia on his left lung. So, I hope you succeed much better than I did. ..with your mom and the clinic.
Father had UTI recently. He was very confused. He couldn't remember my name or who I am. He was seeing more people (I cannot see them). He couldn't tell if it was morning or night, struggled with words. And he was soooo violently angry. After he came home from the hospital, he was back to his old self.
It's hard to watch someone allow themselves to be in harm's way when you can't do anything to protect them.
As for brother with the 3dogs, explain the expense of having these dogs and that brother should be responsible for them.
You can show her the receipt of the grocery and all your bills. Total the cost so that she can see how much she is paying to support these grown-ups. Explain that most young adults living with their parents are expected to contribute to the household. The same should apply to these relatives.
When I had itemized our total monthly expenses vs father's income, he realized that he was overspending and that we were dipping into his emergency fund. He was able to help me keep his spending within his monthly budget.
The idea of a bladder infection or UTI had not occurred to me. This is so different for me. She has had "fatigue periods," largely because she has overdone it at something, but this is different. She doesn't want to go to her doctor, says it is too much trouble and that she doesn't feel like going.
I will take her temp and try to convince her otherwise. I think she at least needs bloodwork. Thank you for your responses.
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