Deb give this forum a chance. It is not about self help but others sharing their experiences and supporting each other. Read through some of the threads you feel might interest you and see what you think. no one can solve you problems but you however sharing does lighten the load and may be amusing at times, and a little laughter does lighten the load.
Deb, have you ever called the Area Agency On Aging in your state? Then you could talk to someone about how to proceed getting help, including how to get an evaluation of what kind of help is needed.
You Mom's doctor is going to have to be involved in ordering things she needs, but you can start by talking to someone local who knows the resources available in your area. Do an online search for Area Agency On Aging KY to find their locations and phone numbers.
Deb, remember that this is an Anonymous forum, nobody is here to judge you, only try to hear and relate to your story, and give you assistance if we have ideas to help! Write what you can, answer any questions, it does ger easier, once to start with the basics!
I'm not totally sure what mom needs. I think she needs an adjustable bed and her bathroom seems unsafe in some ways. What I'm hearing is that I need to talk to her doctor to get started in looking for financial help. Right now she's fairly independent but getting more frail.
You Mom's doctor is going to have to be involved in ordering things she needs, but you can start by talking to someone local who knows the resources available in your area. Do an online search for Area Agency On Aging KY to find their locations and phone numbers.
Good luck!