My Mom is living in a Senior Facility getting short term memory care. Everytime I visit her she asks why she's there and not home. I try to change the subject...but she still asks me and she gets mad at me saying that I am torturing her for her being there and she wants to go to own house.
My Stepdad is home with home care 5 days a week, 8 hours a day. She asks me where he is and when I say home, and she says why can't she be there too? It leads into an argument and she gets mad at me. We had her home 2 different times and it just didn't work. She is incontinent and she wouldn't bathe and would get agitated easily. It seems like my Mom knows what's going on, then doesn't...short term memory loss. It makes me so sad and I feel so guilty I can't sleep at night. Do you have any solutions..how and what to say to her? She will be 95 this Sunday. I currently have POA on her and it was my decision to put her there.