This is very difficult for me to talk about. She told me recently that she is leaving all her money to my nephew and this hurt me, but it is not about the money. I never wanted her money and I don't need it.
It is about the fact that it is unfair. My hub and I have been good to her and done a lot financially for many years. I have no problem with this because Im not counting and money is not an issue for me. I have always given to her and she has given me the greatest gift of all ... love.
Yet, when she told me this, I was so hurt. She may be in early dementia (only one therapist who is not an MD diagnosed) early stages and I do see things. I am the one who is in most contact with her whereas my brother and husband do not really speak long or often (they help in other ways) but they don't listen. I am the one who listens and I don't mind being there for her that way. She was always there for me.
So, why am I borthered. I told her I was hurt. she said "there I will be lying in a box and you are worried about my money?" .... Oh that hurt so bad. That is sooo not me. I have always given, not taken and my family never had any money so I had to make it on my own.
But here's the thing: I told her: If you had three dollars to your name and you left $1.00 to each of us ... that would be good. She did not understand. It is the emotional hurt here ... or is it dementia talking.
Thank you. Because I feel guilty and I know my heart is in the right place.