Mom knows who is stealing from her but is reluctant to do what is right. Any suggestions?

When I found out that my OB was stealing from the home I try to get my mother to talk to him, but like always she put her head in the sand. So I change the locks! I also put locks on my dad's tool cabinet and his paint room. I also change the locks on the garage doors because I heard through the grapevine that he was planing to take the my mom's lawnmower, snow blower, wheel barrel, my BF snow blower, my grill, and whatever else he felt that he had a right too.

Change the locks!

I knew a person that knew their housekeeper was stealing. She loved this charming woman from England with a delightful accent and she said even though she knew she stole the cat food, groceries, jewelry and so forth that it was okay because she had such a pleasant personality. Crazy, huh?

Our mother stated the same thing that people were stealing from her. She even thought her son was taking her money. We believed her totally. We allienated a caregiver because Mom stated she stole her lipstick and the caregiver said she would never do this. We finally realized that her short term dementia was advancing where she thought people were stealing her blind. As it turned out, she started hiding things from where they normally were so people did not steal them
from her. We even found her partial hidden in the cabinet wrapped up in tissue paper so no one would take them. Her jewelry armoire was totally emptied into different boxes and hidden so no one would steal them because she noticed things were missing. A caregiver gave her a beautiful quilt which she promptly hid in her dresser so on one would take it. I gave her a beautiful robe and slippers which she continues to hide in the back part of the closet so no one will take it. If I were you, I would look around and you will probably find what is missing. Look in pillow cases, drawers, under the bed and in the back of shelves. We are always looking for what is “stolen” and usually find it. Good luck!

Don't allow them into the home. Change locks and don't give them a key. Tell Mom not to let them in. If she does, then the problem is hers. I understand that she is with it but she is allowing herself to be taken advantage of. The POA can step in.

Do you know who these people are?

Do you know for a fact that thefts of property have taken place?

If so, is there any reason why you yourself cannot report them either to their employers or to the police?

Of course, it all slightly depends on what is going missing and in what circumstances. But if it's cash, jewellery or items of defined value like that, and you're sure of your facts, what's stopping you?

Are the "certain people" relatives, friends, neighbours or hired assistants?

"She has tried to confront the person(s) that are doing the stealing, however, they have now blocked her from communicating with them." Is the problem solved and these "certain people" are out of the picture because they have blocked her? How were they gaining entry?

If things are missing in your parents home,or important papers or bills that haven't been paid,look under loose rugs or carpets,my Aunt hid all her bills under the carpets. Then,years later,my Grandmother stashed her money,(cash) wrapped in foil in the freezer.

I discovered my younger brother had been stealing money from my mom. He had been taking advantage of her for years by living off her, her paying his bills, and she even signed her house over to him. I call Adult Protective Services. They came out, talked to her but she refused to press charges on her. When my dad died, she had about half a million in assets. When she died, she had $40,000 left.

In home cameras. Telling your loved one to stop complaining since she won't do anything about it. Filing a police report. These are the options. The video will catch the thieves red handed, get them arrested and solve the problems.

Are you sure she completely understands what is going on? Perhaps she is more forgetful than you are aware? Our elders can certainly fool us to believe what they want us to believe.
If she does yet still prefers not to confront the person try in home cameras.
You can’t make her act but I’d be proactive in making sure it doesn’t happen again.