Mom is having bladder bowel issues, accidents and not getting to toilet quick enough. She’s resistant to needing protection. Suggestions?

We all seem to have hit on similar solutions. Agree with removing regular panties but have found it helpful to put a couple of new Always Discreet Boutique "panties" in the drawer for times she forgets the large package beside the toilet. Minimizes her bottomless wandering looking for her panties!

Mom uses Prevail Per-Fit that she gets from hpfy.com (Health Products for You) store. They have many brands from which to choose. Mom still complains that the crotch is too thick and uncomfortable. This is the case for any brand she has tried. You can order samples of different brands for her to try from hpfy.com.

I bought her some of those panties with the permanent pad sewn in that are washable, but the padding apparently was not thick enough and a big mess resulted. I also now put a bed pad that is quilted on one side and a waterproof material on the other side under her fitted sheet.

Recently I have been making sure she gets up from her recliner every two hours or so to go to the bathroom. That way she walks and moves around and also uses the restroom. Win/win!

We use depends and always discreet. We order from Amazon but recently found a great deal from our local overstock discount store. 30% off. Woohoo! We started using them here and there and eventually just boxed up panties so they weren’t available. We call them her pads. Just what she called them, although they are complete pull up(diapers)

One thing I have heard does work for their refusing to wear them is for you to remove all her regular panties and replace them with depends.  They are now made much more form fitting, not baggie.  One caretaker told me she actually put on a pair to show her lo that she uses them to.  No issues after that.  Hope this helps.

We used Tena protective underwear and Pea Pod Mats every where. Including on the floor. sofas, bed, chairs.

Tip: Don’t call them adult diapers! We all them special panties.

Also, make sure the floor on the way to the bathroom is easy to clean. Someone mentioned putting down a gray tarp for his wife - think outside the box. At some stage, you might consider getting a bedside commode to keep in her room. And, peapod or other absorbent pads for the bed/chairs. Depending on how often the leaks happen and how comfortable you are doing laundry, you can get fabric or disposable ones.

Many here suggest removing her regular panties and replacing them with protective, absorbent undergarments.

Always discreet boutique and depends silhouette are both good products that come in pretty colours. The pads are good too, they range from very slim and lightweight to sturdy overnight styles, and since women are used to the idea of pads they might be an easier first step to negotiate.