She had surgery on her back in August. Arthritis and bulging disc etc. Doctors here refuse to prescribe effective pain meds. Though he did another epidural. She is 81 and is expected to do Physical therapy. She can barely walk.
Do you live in a legal medical marijuana state? That is what people here in AZ. are using. Don't think that it is smoking marijuana. It isn't that at all.
But, she has to get a little relief to even start her PT. PT is quite important at all ages.
Yes PT hurts, especially after surgery. MD's are pushing patients to lose weight and get exercise instead of handing out pills. Mom has to do the PT or pretty soon she won't be walking at all. He is trying to save her from a Nursing Home. Nobody said it would be easy.
Liz,. my mother had a hip replacement at 85 and a repair at 99. Both times she did PT though it was not easy, but it was necessary to mobilize her. I am sorry your mother is having such a hard time. I would encourage her to do "small steps: literally and figuratively and work with the PT. Vikki has good specific suggestions for the pain.
Have you considered getting a second opinion on the cause of her pain? Surgery has it's risks and not all surgery, no matter how common, will provide the pain relief we often expect especially for someone her age. Did her doc explain to her what she could expect after the surgery? Did they explain to her that rehab would be painful? Did she understand what they telling her? Sometimes the best medicine is just knowing there's a light at the end of the tunnel.Rehab hurts but the rehab will help the pain subside. Perhaps you need to show less concern over her pain and provide more encouragement to work/insistence to work through it. What I mean is your constant expressions of concern over pain that may be perfectly normal after this surgery may be adding to her anxiety and fear of rehab. If we anticipate and fear pain, we are more apt to feel pain more acutely.
I'm with Ola on this one. You want to make sure that your mom's pain is not coming from a new problem, say a fractured pelvis that is being overlooked. A new set of eyes is in order here.
Also, I would put real weight on what the physical therapist recommends. Has mom been evaluated for PT? She may fear going, but needs to be seen so that pt and doctor can work together.
I appreciate the feedback. She starts PT Friday. Chicago 1954, I asked her if she would consider marijuana. (it's illegal here, though not a smoker I don't see anything wrong with it) She wasn't willing to. It's just so difficult to watch. I feel helpless. Hearing from others does help and I thank all of you.
The PT is essential after surgery to get moving again. The best Physical Therapist my mother ever had was one that used to be in the military, and would talk to Mom (really good looking guy) while he literally held her up while she was crying and saying she couldn't do it (I almost wanted to hit him the first time). But he got her up and moving, and pretty soon had her walking and smiling. She would never had gotten to that point if he hadn't gently ignored her comments that she couldn't do it and just made her do it anyway.
Is she seeing a pain management doctor? It might be a good avenue to explore as many have dual specialities (like orthopaedics and pain management). They could do nerve blocks are whatever is necessary to alleviate some, if not all, of her pain and be able to coordinate other therapies (like PT) to work in tandem. She does need to do her therapy, but she may be afraid of the pain, so if the pain is dealt with effectively first she may then do the therapy. I agree with sandwich that if your mom has dementia and cannot be reasoned with this may very frustrating and may not work at all. When my mom broke her knee ( she was in mid-stage Alz, then) there were times when she refused to cooperate with anyone at the rehab facility. My dad and I had to be present for every session of therapy and 'motivate' her. Some days it was just a lost cause as she could be very stubborn, but on others it really did help. If she is in a rehab facility they will not continue therapy if she is not progressing; and ,in our case, the therapists were not too interested in motivating her. So it was up to us.....sigh....I'm sending you big hugs
Liz, go with her, witness the exercises and be sure she repeats them on her days off. For a reward, some nice warm compresses with Epsom salts. Promise her a pedicure after the first week.
Lots of good advice here. Just a few thoughts, based on previous responses: Why are we worrying about an elderly woman developing some 'dependence' on pain medicine? She might need it to accomplish the exercises. Learn about 'passive range of motion' exercises appropriate to her condition and try to help her get started by 'doing it for her/with her' at first. Depending on her current mental status, motivation in the form of "a change of scenery" can be helpful as can rewards for cooperating and trying. What about therapeutic massage for comfort and to promote flexibility? And if 'pain meds' won't be prescribed, how about muscle relaxers to avoid spasms and reduce anxiety (which results from pain). Last but not least- marijuana can also be ingested, a boon for nonsmokers.
But, she has to get a little relief to even start her PT. PT is quite important at all ages.
Surgery has it's risks and not all surgery, no matter how common, will provide the pain relief we often expect especially for someone her age.
Did her doc explain to her what she could expect after the surgery?
Did they explain to her that rehab would be painful?
Did she understand what they telling her?
Sometimes the best medicine is just knowing there's a light at the end of the tunnel.Rehab hurts but the rehab will help the pain subside.
Perhaps you need to show less concern over her pain and provide more encouragement to work/insistence to work through it.
What I mean is your constant expressions of concern over pain that may be perfectly normal after this surgery may be adding to her anxiety and fear of rehab.
If we anticipate and fear pain, we are more apt to feel pain more acutely.
Also, I would put real weight on what the physical therapist recommends. Has mom been evaluated for PT? She may fear going, but needs to be seen so that pt and doctor can work together.
Why are we worrying about an elderly woman developing some 'dependence' on pain medicine? She might need it to accomplish the exercises.
Learn about 'passive range of motion' exercises appropriate to her condition and try to help her get started by 'doing it for her/with her' at first.
Depending on her current mental status, motivation in the form of "a change of scenery" can be helpful as can rewards for cooperating and trying.
What about therapeutic massage for comfort and to promote flexibility?
And if 'pain meds' won't be prescribed, how about muscle relaxers to avoid spasms and reduce anxiety (which results from pain).
Last but not least- marijuana can also be ingested, a boon for nonsmokers.
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