Mom has Alzheimer’s (86) and is very demanding. She was always demanding when she was well and it continues on. I try and do everything she asks, but I’m getting burned out. She wants me there everyday, but due to my disability (Lupus) I cannot. I am usually there every other day, plus take her to all her appointments (Doctor, lab work, hair appointments, nails/pedicure). My husband sees her everyday and also goes with me to her appointments. I cannot get her in and out of car by myself. She cannot remember a lot, until it comes to her hair and other personal appointments. She’s always taken good care of herself and is very vain.
As soon as we get one appointment done she continues to ask to have the same things done over and over.
I have a brother who does not do a thing for my Mom. She was placed in a Board and Care in January (after a 10 day stay in the Hospital) and he told me he doesn’t need to see her.
People like her are what’s called Narcissists. And they do not change, Alzheimers or no.
Lupus is no joke! You HAVE to take care of yourself and health. There is no other option!
I think seeing her everyday is not good. I think your DH should explain that with Lupus you just cannot be at her beck and call. Maybe coming from him she would be more excepted. Give ur DH a hug for me. He is a rare one.