This is so heartbreaking for me right now. We have to sell my Mom's house to pay for assisted living and I live with her now. She is getting paranoid, thinks I am trying to "put her away" ect. I wanted her to stay in her own home but the other siblings decided AL was the way to go and I went with the majority. Truthfully I was getting burned out but I got very little respite for the 3 years I have been her caregiver. Now my sibs have arranged for a beautiful and very expensive AL for her but she does not want to go and is blaming it on me. I cannot tell her that I would be willing to stay but was not getting any respite or help from my sibs because she would not understand. When I realized that my brother and sister were benefiting from me being her caregiver but were not providing any financial or respite care I told them either pay up, give me respite or I quit. They choose the assisted living option, probably so they would not have to hear me bitch anymore about not getting any relief from Mom. So for 3 more weeks I have to bear the brunt of her anger while my sis is on vacation and my brother visits rarely.