My 83 year old mother has been living with me and my wife for 7 months, and we have been working through issues. She is in Stage 5/6 area with an MMES btw 10-12. I have to work, and we have had a respite caregiver help my wife out a few days a week. We recently learned that when the respite caregiver was here, and my wife was out of the room or the house, that apparently my mother was going through my wife's purse for money (it hangs on a railing in the living room). My mother told the respite caregiver that she should be paid for helping to wash the dishes. I also learned that at some point when the respite caregiver took my mother upstairs, apparently my mother was going through drawers in my wife's bedroom looking for jewelry. We are planning to put a lock on the bedroom door (for the rare instances) when we have respite caregiver there to solve this problem. Does anyone have any other solutions? Yes, I am really wondering what this respite caregiver is thinking, letting my mother do all this - but apparently she doesn't want to upset her.